Lulu39

I'm all like, why bother.

I think I have this glowing neon sign on my head that says: "CRAZY PEOPLE WELCOME".

And on the weekends, if my kids are not here, and I get invited somewhere by work friends etc., I just can't be bothered.

I went to a party recently and I made a bet with myself that the crazy drunk man at the party (there's always one) would find me like a moth to a flame.

He did. And I wasn't surprised.

Why bother.

Mountainmanbob

Hammer

Let me practice the Pick Up Line . . .

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Hey baby, you are looking pretty hot.

I may be a little drunk but will try not to barf on you while we are doing it.

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I remember one drunk guy in the Army who, in the moment of passion, did barf on a local college girl he picked up. She stuck around. He felt bad about the whole thing because he was running around on his girlfriend back home.

ahhhh, Love.

Hammer

You may be right.

Gotta tell you that dealing with an Alcoholic/Addict/Atheist has not been the easiest thing in the world.

But it has certainly driven me and kids very close to God.

All Things Work Together for Good . . . at least that is my internal story.

Hanna

So many good suggestions.

All I have to add is that if you pay attention to the red flags and don't make excuses for them, it doesn't matter so much where you meet the person. I've become much better at spotting the healthy people, and moving away from the ones with issues. If you are healthy yourself, you will attract more healthy people.

Good luck!
Hanna

rry1177

The best way to meet someone is to start doing things YOU enjoy. You'd be surprised at the conversations you'll have and stories you'll hear once you just get out there and live. It sounds corny, but I really believe this is the best way.

itsmylifenow

I like the answers about knowing the red flags and it won't matter where you meet someone.

I met both my xabf's at a singles group through Meetup. They weren't the norm and personally I love my groups.

What they both had in common, besides the drinking, was I had an attraction to them. One was extremely magnetic and the other one just drew me in with his wonderful comments.

Had my picker been fixed or my self esteem been higher I probably wouldn't have fallen for all the nice lines and attention.

choublak

Oh hell.

If I were to become single again, my mom and aunts would probably try to find me someone.

CodeJob

Hammer, you forgot therapist waiting rooms!

CodeJob

I have met some interesting people at a writer's seminar that cut across all ages. There are alumni groups, charitable organizations, volunteer opportunities. I've heard advertisements for "It's Just Lunch" and the radio also advertises a singles group for people to go and do set activities as a group. I guess the grocery store is a hit spot but I am always in a daze and personally don't notice anyone there. Good luck!

lizatola

I've been hit on a few times in grocery stores, go figure, LOL!

As for meeting people, I'm still married so I'm not looking but a friend of mine in Al Anon just met a guy at a financial peace seminar, another friend of mine met her guy at Al Anon actually, and another friend of mine met her awesome fiancé at Starbucks.

Hammer

Well, I guess the attentive reader would by now know that Mrs. Hammer and I met on an Internet Mental Health Support Group . . . and our first date WAS meeting my Therapist, all the while joking that one should never date someone they meet in the Self-Help Section of the Book Store.

Yeah. F-me.

Which brings me back to what I posted sometime back . . .

Good God. Pippi and a few others may be right. I am an Ass.

Sorry Stella, if you are still around.

For real, maybe check Alanon. I see some some guys there time-to-time.

Hope you get what you want the way you want it.

PippiLngstockng

I hate it when men are straight forward and nice to me. When they obviously really like me and let every around know. Gives me the creeps.

I try really hard to be nice and like them back, but they make me uncomfortable and I play with them until I am almost mean and they give up. Then I am sorry.

When men are more edgy, self-centered, and withdrawn I feel safe. I am around gorgeous men from my sports all the time. I love their - beautiful - company but I just can't let any one get too close.

I guess I ought to be telling this to a therapist :0)

*sigh*

Hammer

sooo. You are saying that a guy being an Ass can be . . . a little appealing, hmmm.

Get a Job.




hahahhahaha

BoxinRotz

OMG Hammer... you are such a RICHARD!

PippiLngstockng

Charming, Hammer.

aasharon90

After being married for 25 yrs, we divorced
and I was free. I moved back to my hometown
and focused first on settling in and job. I
returned to my AA meetings and slowing
began looking.

I believe my HP placed the right person
in my life at the right time and kept me
from going from one guy to another searching
for love.

It was quick and I didn't have to do much
work. Just had to put my faith in my Recovery
and HP and the rest was taken care of.

I met my husband in 2007 in an AA meeting,
who was recently widowed after 35yrs. marriage
with his wife passing away from illness. We
courted for awhile then married in 2009 and
we will celebrate 5 yrs married on Valentine's
Day next Friday getting my new tattoo of a
man and woman kissing inside a heart frame.

I can't wait..!!!

My HP could and would if He was sought. And
He has and is always...!!!

Hammer

See YOU have an advantage -- being from the AA side of the house, and all.

You all can figure out what you want, when you want

in fact you all are SO Good at knowing what, when, where, you want, you all can even become addicted to it. Seems to *us* that you all ready know the When you want is NOW, and the Where is RIGHT HERE will do.

H O W E V E R.

On the Other Side of the Wall -- In the Alanon Room.

We do not have such certainty. We sit on our hands bemoaning our condition. Like most of this thread is all about.

Until that magic dream day when *our dream A* shows up and sort of pays us a little attention, and sweeps us off our feet with a charming line such as . . . .

"I am Horny -- You'll do."

THEN *we* know it is finally True Love for us, too.

Maybe a song would explain it best?

The Bastard Fairies - Whatever - YouTube

Stung

I KNEW IT! Alanon IS a meat market!!

And I'm going to say it since no one else has...do emotionally sound, healthy, normal men actually exist?

JustAGirl1971

Lol. I guess there's maybe as many of them as there are emotionally sound, healthy, normal women?

If alanon's a meat market, guess I'm at the wrong meetings

Now, I have had multiple men from the 'other side' flirt with me. So, I guess we could add: outside the AA doors as a place for us codies to meet our next man