Why even bother asking?
Why even bother asking?
Back when my boyfriend was drinking and in denial, he would frequently ask me, "Even if I did have a drinking problem, how would it affect you? Would it make you fail out of school?"
Why even bother asking these questions?
Why even bother asking these questions?
Yuck. To prove that his drinking, which he didn't consider a problem, only affected him. Obviously not true but the drinker's brain can be have convoluted logic at times.
But that would prove the exact opposite, because obviously the other person would have a list of ways that it does.
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To justify it.
Plain and simple.
Theyll say "well my drinking effects me not you"
And ofcourse theres the case of the yets ie
"Well im not homeless yet" "dont have liver problems yet"
Addiction effects everyone.
Plain and simple.
Theyll say "well my drinking effects me not you"
And ofcourse theres the case of the yets ie
"Well im not homeless yet" "dont have liver problems yet"
Addiction effects everyone.
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It doesnt matter the number of reasons the drinking effected another person nor does it matter the number of ways its effected the alcoholic. Theyll find just one reason to drink and one reason its not so bad or doesnt hurt others to keep it
You're right, most people would. And you could give them a list and they would probably come back and say how that is all you. It is convoluted. There isn't logic or a good answer to why unfortunately.
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Originally Posted by choublak
Back when my boyfriend was drinking and in denial, he would frequently ask me, "Even if I did have a drinking problem, how would it affect you? Would it make you fail out of school?"
Why even bother asking these questions?
Why even bother asking these questions?
And while my husband's alcoholism didn't make me fail out of school, it stressed me out enough (along with FT work + FT school for far too long) to essentially quit and put finishing my masters on hold.
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