what do you do when you feel lonely?
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what do you do when you feel lonely?
Just looking for some practical strategies. I asked my ah to leave a year ago when he relapsed. For much of that time we were in regularly phone contact and we saw him often. More recently his drinking ( and crazy antics) have become worse so my kids and I are not in contact with him. I know that n/c is for the best but I'm home with 2 small girls every evening and I don't live near my family. We'd been together for 20 years.
How do you fill the gap ?
How do you fill the gap ?
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Maybe take them to the park where they along with yourself can meet new friends. If they are in school perhaps get involved in school activities and that can provide another opportunity to meet some good people as well.
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Yes I know that feeling. Church is a great place for me to not feel that way - a literal sanctuary. Are you religious?
I have found that the more time goes by, the less I feel that kind of lonely and isolated. I hope that will be the case for you.
I have found that the more time goes by, the less I feel that kind of lonely and isolated. I hope that will be the case for you.
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Originally Posted by MsJojo 
thanks SHH :-) I do this and have some lovely friends and I also work almost full time. Its more the sort of loneliness that you get even when you're in a crowd that bothers me IYKWIM?
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You're right Tuffgirl, I get very little time alone. I try my hardest to turn this into positive "me-time" but I get waves of loneliness ( or maybe grief?) . Embracing the feeling is probably the best plan.
Stella, I so wish I was religious. I have an open mind and tried the village church but it wasn't the right church for me.
Stella, I so wish I was religious. I have an open mind and tried the village church but it wasn't the right church for me.
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Do you have some local Al-Anon?
Asking because we (ok, I) have been "pushing" some of my local group(s) to work out some sort of Mom's (or Dad's) night out Al-Anon. Work out some sort of group child play/care time as part of the meeting, etc.
Asking because we (ok, I) have been "pushing" some of my local group(s) to work out some sort of Mom's (or Dad's) night out Al-Anon. Work out some sort of group child play/care time as part of the meeting, etc.
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