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((OTL))) - I'm so sorry I didn't read this earlier, as I would have ramped up the prayers, but you are ALWAYS in my prayers, and I'm glad that you went in there as the person I know and held strong.
You've been there for me, forever, and I am so damned PROUD of you!!! Did I mention I wanna be like you (and a few others here) when I grow up?
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
You've been there for me, forever, and I am so damned PROUD of you!!! Did I mention I wanna be like you (and a few others here) when I grow up?
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
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WOW, Outonalimb!!! Look at what you did--You took control of your own thoughts and feelings rather than just reacting to him. You DID take your own power. What a good lesson for all of us on how to face our fears----when fear comes a'knockin.
Retail Therapy!!---Who Knew?
I feel a celebration coming on--
dandylion
Retail Therapy!!---Who Knew?
I feel a celebration coming on--
dandylion
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The judge determined that there was enough evidence to send the case up to a higher court for trial (or, hopefully, a guilty plea). I guess there was lots and lots of drama in the courtroom before I was called to the stand and after I left. Exah's attorney wanted to send exah for a psychiatric exam and exah said he didnt' want or need one. Round and round and round they went. I think exah's erratic and irrational behavior was on vivid display. The real beauty in all of this is that I wasn't the one having to try to reason with him. That job now officially belongs to his defense attorney, the jail guards,and anyone else he comes into contact with him. I've been blessedly relieved of this job. Thank you God!!
Hugs and thanks to everyone. I'm so overcome with gratitude for all the help and support I've had since I stepped utu of the shadows and 'went public' with all of these big, scary, ugly problems that I had been dealing with on my own for so long. There are so many recovery lessons for me in this whole experience but the one that really jumps out at me today is that we dont' have to figure out and handle everything on our own. There is NO SHAME in asking for help. And I am amazed at how my HP put so many wonderful people in my life to hold my hand, prop me up, encourage me, and calm me down when I started to lose it. I had a great prosecutor, a great detective, a great sgt. who drove 4 hours each way to come and testify that exah was given a copy of the restraining order just because that seemed to be exah's only issue. This sgt wasn't even subpoenaed...he was under no legal duty to do this and yet he did. I had wonderful victim advocates who talked to me and kept me distracted. I had my al anon friends sending encouraging texts and prayers. And I had you guys too. I'm overwhelmed with gratitude. Thanks so much...from my heart....thank you!!!
Hugs and thanks to everyone. I'm so overcome with gratitude for all the help and support I've had since I stepped utu of the shadows and 'went public' with all of these big, scary, ugly problems that I had been dealing with on my own for so long. There are so many recovery lessons for me in this whole experience but the one that really jumps out at me today is that we dont' have to figure out and handle everything on our own. There is NO SHAME in asking for help. And I am amazed at how my HP put so many wonderful people in my life to hold my hand, prop me up, encourage me, and calm me down when I started to lose it. I had a great prosecutor, a great detective, a great sgt. who drove 4 hours each way to come and testify that exah was given a copy of the restraining order just because that seemed to be exah's only issue. This sgt wasn't even subpoenaed...he was under no legal duty to do this and yet he did. I had wonderful victim advocates who talked to me and kept me distracted. I had my al anon friends sending encouraging texts and prayers. And I had you guys too. I'm overwhelmed with gratitude. Thanks so much...from my heart....thank you!!!
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^^^^^^^^^
I second that!!
You are AWE INSPIRING!!!
WTG Mary!!!!!!
I do so like the 'touch' of the new black pumps!!! And yes retailing can be very fulfilling and an ease of 'anxiety.' rofl
Sounds like he is going to get a 'message' whether he wants one or not.
I am so grateful that your personal growth has helped to remove you and your child from the disaster of living with an A!!
Love and hugs,
I second that!!
You are AWE INSPIRING!!!
WTG Mary!!!!!!
I do so like the 'touch' of the new black pumps!!! And yes retailing can be very fulfilling and an ease of 'anxiety.' rofl
Sounds like he is going to get a 'message' whether he wants one or not.
I am so grateful that your personal growth has helped to remove you and your child from the disaster of living with an A!!
Love and hugs,
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Mary,
You are an inspiration to me.
Thank you so much for sharing your story here, I am grateful for you and the SR family.
Yes, I cried when I read your posts after court.
Empathy, relief and gratitude.
Oh my, here I go again.
Thank you.
Sincerely,
Beth
You are an inspiration to me.
Thank you so much for sharing your story here, I am grateful for you and the SR family.
Yes, I cried when I read your posts after court.
Empathy, relief and gratitude.
Oh my, here I go again.
Thank you.
Sincerely,
Beth
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Mary,
I was following your story at the time, reading posts on my smartphone- but have not had much time to come to SR and post.
I couldn't let this post go by without letting you know just how wonderful and strong I think you are!
I had to make some decisions in my divorce proceedings recently - I was tempted to step back to avoid making waves and just end the conflict. I was rolling over because he is a mean, controlling, narcissistic bully.
You gave me strength - what you did was required more bravery than what I was facing. I changed course and stood my ground because you inspired me!
So, I must send you my most heartfelt thanks. I am tearing up as I write this and I'm not sure why.
Hugs,
MamaKit
I was following your story at the time, reading posts on my smartphone- but have not had much time to come to SR and post.
I couldn't let this post go by without letting you know just how wonderful and strong I think you are!
I had to make some decisions in my divorce proceedings recently - I was tempted to step back to avoid making waves and just end the conflict. I was rolling over because he is a mean, controlling, narcissistic bully.
You gave me strength - what you did was required more bravery than what I was facing. I changed course and stood my ground because you inspired me!
So, I must send you my most heartfelt thanks. I am tearing up as I write this and I'm not sure why.
Hugs,
MamaKit
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I wish I could just hug all of you in person. I am so touched by your posts. Thank God we have this community where we can prop each other up, cheer each other on, empathize and sympathize, share our tears and our fears, and even laugh at the insanity of it all once in a while. What a blessing you all are! Thanks again for your love and your support.
Mary
Mary
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