MsPINKAcres

When I entered the rooms of recovery ~ I thought I was the mature, responsible person of the "dysfunctional" relationship ~ I thought that the qualifiers in my life had all the problems and I was going to these meetings to figure out how to live with them ~

And then my HP helped me to see just how deeply I had been affected by this disease and how much I needed healing, needed to change, and really needed to mature in my outlook on this disease, my loved ones and my life ~
This reading really helped me when I worked Step 4 ~

I hope it helps some of you the way it helped me . . .

Courage to Change March 3 page 63

A recent searching and fearless moral inventory of myself (Step Four) gave me a clear message: Much of my behavoior was extremely immature. But what is mature behavior? Obviously the answer is different for each of us, but exploring the question can help me to identify my goals and apply the Al-Anon program as I seek to change this behavior. To me, maturity includes:

Knowing myself
Asking for help when I need it and acting on my own when I don't
Admitting when I'm wrong and making amends
Accepting love from others, even if I'm having a tough time loving myself
Recognizing that I always have choices, and taking responsibility for the ones I make
Seeing that life is a blessing
Having an opinion without insisting that others share it
Forgiving myself and others
Recognizing my shortcomings and my strengths
Having the courage to live one day at a time
Acknowledging that my needs are my responsibility
Caring for people without having to take care of them
Accepting that I'll never be finished - I'll always be a work-in progress

May the understanding love and peace of the program grow in you One Day at a Time ~

PINK HUGS (hope, unity, gratitude and serenity)

stella27

thank you for this.

lizatola

I needed to read this today as I have been working on my step 4!

CAgirl9

Thank you for this post!