Acceptance and indifference are difficult when...
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Acceptance and indifference are difficult when...
...the A keeps coming over to you and bothering you about crap.
Say the A is drunk, cooks something and comes over to you asking if you want a piece. They do this five, ten, fifteen times, even after you've said "no thank you".
How does one accept and become indifferent to that?
Say the A is drunk, cooks something and comes over to you asking if you want a piece. They do this five, ten, fifteen times, even after you've said "no thank you".
How does one accept and become indifferent to that?
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This is the really difficult part of detachment ~
or at least it was for me -
I hate so much you are dealing with this - I know it must be very very stressful ~
So many times I wanted to scream "For the 15th bagillion time - the answer is still NO" when my then AH when come ask me the same question over & over again - trying to get me to engage in conversation when he was under the influence.
Right or wrong - I finally started pretending I was sleeping & didn't hear him; or I would just leave the house
It's not easy to keep our side of the street clean and peaceful but it is worth it - keep taking good care of you!!
pink hugs
This is the really difficult part of detachment ~
or at least it was for me -
I hate so much you are dealing with this - I know it must be very very stressful ~
So many times I wanted to scream "For the 15th bagillion time - the answer is still NO" when my then AH when come ask me the same question over & over again - trying to get me to engage in conversation when he was under the influence.
Right or wrong - I finally started pretending I was sleeping & didn't hear him; or I would just leave the house
It's not easy to keep our side of the street clean and peaceful but it is worth it - keep taking good care of you!!
pink hugs
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[QUOTE=MsPINKAcres;3868145]((Choublak))
Right or wrong - I finally started pretending I was sleeping & didn't hear him; or I would just leave the house
I do this all the time. My AH loves to argue and degrade me and the kids before he passes out nightly. I try to fake sleeping too just to get him to stop. I find he still talks...just changes it and talks about me as if I weren't there. I just keep quiet until he eventually goes to sleep.
Right or wrong - I finally started pretending I was sleeping & didn't hear him; or I would just leave the house
I do this all the time. My AH loves to argue and degrade me and the kids before he passes out nightly. I try to fake sleeping too just to get him to stop. I find he still talks...just changes it and talks about me as if I weren't there. I just keep quiet until he eventually goes to sleep.
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