The 10 Reasons I Stayed..............
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The 10 Reasons I Stayed..............
Okay, so I am a codie; so I am living with and am surrounded by drunks,addicts, and totally dysfunctional people. Why do I stay here?
1. Been here so long I can't image anything else!
2. I like having someone else manage and control my every thought, move, and activity.
3. It gives me something to snivel about.
4. I always have a whipping boy to whine about.
5. It helps me justify and rationalize my own unacceptable behavior. They do/did thus and so, so now I get to--
6. I need a man in my life.
7. I am nothing without them.
8. They need me.
9. I'll save them.
10. I love them
I started this just for fun, now I'll give you the reasons I stay today.
1. I believe in committments. Sometimes I have to stay in a relationship long enough to becomes friends AGAIN.
2. He is honest, sometimes, even more honest than I am about my behavior.
3. He is kind. A lot kinder than I am with words.
4. He is a hard worker.
5. He comes home at night.
6. He makes sure my car is in perfect running order, even puts gas in it sometimes.
7. He mows the lawn.
8. He remembers my birthday. How could he forget, I start reminding him a month before it gets here.
9. He takes daily showers, but only shaves every other day.
10. He tells me he loves me, even when sober and a lot more than I tell him.
11. He loves the wild critters in the woods behind our house and feeds them daily.
12. He tells me when the hummingbird feeders are empty.
13. He puts up the bird houses when and where I want them.
14. He doesn't bring me bouquets of roses but buys me rose bushes.
15. He Doesn't clean bathrooms, but he will do dishes sometimes.
16. He doesn't complain about my Al-Anon meetings, books, tapes, or SR.
17. He grows a wonderful garden every year.
There is my list for today. I do this every once in a while just to spot check WHERE and WHY I am still here. I know that to a lot of you, my life must seem wonderful and it is. But I am an adult child of alcoholics, I am married so someone who use to drink daily, I have family members whose drinking could drive me crazy.
Have you ever done a list of the good and bad things in your life and/or about your man, and or family members. It's so easy for me to see the bad things and let them rule my mind and heart. At first I really had a hard time coming up with the good things about him/they/those. Now I could go on with alot more of the good.
SO JUST FOR TODAY I STAY.
Love and prayers from one who cares,
Daffodil
1. Been here so long I can't image anything else!
2. I like having someone else manage and control my every thought, move, and activity.
3. It gives me something to snivel about.
4. I always have a whipping boy to whine about.
5. It helps me justify and rationalize my own unacceptable behavior. They do/did thus and so, so now I get to--
6. I need a man in my life.
7. I am nothing without them.
8. They need me.
9. I'll save them.
10. I love them
I started this just for fun, now I'll give you the reasons I stay today.
1. I believe in committments. Sometimes I have to stay in a relationship long enough to becomes friends AGAIN.
2. He is honest, sometimes, even more honest than I am about my behavior.
3. He is kind. A lot kinder than I am with words.
4. He is a hard worker.
5. He comes home at night.
6. He makes sure my car is in perfect running order, even puts gas in it sometimes.
7. He mows the lawn.
8. He remembers my birthday. How could he forget, I start reminding him a month before it gets here.
9. He takes daily showers, but only shaves every other day.
10. He tells me he loves me, even when sober and a lot more than I tell him.
11. He loves the wild critters in the woods behind our house and feeds them daily.
12. He tells me when the hummingbird feeders are empty.
13. He puts up the bird houses when and where I want them.
14. He doesn't bring me bouquets of roses but buys me rose bushes.
15. He Doesn't clean bathrooms, but he will do dishes sometimes.
16. He doesn't complain about my Al-Anon meetings, books, tapes, or SR.
17. He grows a wonderful garden every year.
There is my list for today. I do this every once in a while just to spot check WHERE and WHY I am still here. I know that to a lot of you, my life must seem wonderful and it is. But I am an adult child of alcoholics, I am married so someone who use to drink daily, I have family members whose drinking could drive me crazy.
Have you ever done a list of the good and bad things in your life and/or about your man, and or family members. It's so easy for me to see the bad things and let them rule my mind and heart. At first I really had a hard time coming up with the good things about him/they/those. Now I could go on with alot more of the good.
SO JUST FOR TODAY I STAY.
Love and prayers from one who cares,
Daffodil
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Re: The 10 Reasons I Stayed..............
That is so sweet... because underneath the disease these are good people who would give someone the shirt off there backs ..unforunataly its hard to see it when they are drinking kat
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Re: The 10 Reasons I Stayed..............
Why I Used To Stay
1. I loved him, even though it was unhealthy the way I loved him.
2. Because I was going to make it work this time, wasn't going to put my kids through a divorce again, or have the son we share experience what my other kids have had to.
3. He was my fairytale in the beginning- he "rescued" me from my addicted 1st husband and the abuse that I had experienced.
4. My older 3 kids needed a dad- their own dad had basically abandoned them- I couldn't put them through losing another one.
5. I needed him to define who I was- without him, I was less of a woman, less of a mom, less of a person.
6. As long as I was with him, I too didn't have to make any decisions on my own. It gave me an excuse to screw my own life up.
7. Without me, he would completely loose control.
8. I was afraid of how he would react to us splitting.
9. I thought if I stayed that eventually he would quit and our lives would be wonderful.
10.I wasn't willing to only seeing my youngest (2 yr old) for half the time, or even having him gone on the weekends.
Why I Stay Now
1. Because I love him- even if he isn't always perfect. I can accept him for who he is now.
2. Because he takes time to sit down and play with my kids, or just to have "Family Night" (his invention) once every few weeks.
3. Because he lets me sleep in when I ask him to, he takes charge when I need to get a break or when I need to do my homework.
4. Because he enjoys spending time with me, even if we still haven't figured out exactly how to have fun together.
5. Because he tries to be a better person. Yes, sometimes he screws up, but he still tries.
6. Because he accepts that Alanon/this forum are my lifeline, even if he can't completely understand the whole thing.
7. Because he has accepted my older three kids, and loves them like his own.
8. Because he has put up with my sick behavior, and through it all he still loved me unconditionally.
9. Because he tells me he loves me and shows me too.
10. Because he has made a commitment to me, to our family, and to making this work in healthy ways.
There was a time when I couldn't see past all of the hurt his drinking had caused, AND past my own sick behaviors. All I could see was a person with faults that needed to be changed, but NONE of it was because of my own behaviors/attitudes (yeah right). I feel very grateful that I wound up on this site when I did. Miracles have been happening ever since!! Thanks, everyone!
1. I loved him, even though it was unhealthy the way I loved him.
2. Because I was going to make it work this time, wasn't going to put my kids through a divorce again, or have the son we share experience what my other kids have had to.
3. He was my fairytale in the beginning- he "rescued" me from my addicted 1st husband and the abuse that I had experienced.
4. My older 3 kids needed a dad- their own dad had basically abandoned them- I couldn't put them through losing another one.
5. I needed him to define who I was- without him, I was less of a woman, less of a mom, less of a person.
6. As long as I was with him, I too didn't have to make any decisions on my own. It gave me an excuse to screw my own life up.
7. Without me, he would completely loose control.
8. I was afraid of how he would react to us splitting.
9. I thought if I stayed that eventually he would quit and our lives would be wonderful.
10.I wasn't willing to only seeing my youngest (2 yr old) for half the time, or even having him gone on the weekends.
Why I Stay Now
1. Because I love him- even if he isn't always perfect. I can accept him for who he is now.
2. Because he takes time to sit down and play with my kids, or just to have "Family Night" (his invention) once every few weeks.
3. Because he lets me sleep in when I ask him to, he takes charge when I need to get a break or when I need to do my homework.
4. Because he enjoys spending time with me, even if we still haven't figured out exactly how to have fun together.
5. Because he tries to be a better person. Yes, sometimes he screws up, but he still tries.
6. Because he accepts that Alanon/this forum are my lifeline, even if he can't completely understand the whole thing.
7. Because he has accepted my older three kids, and loves them like his own.
8. Because he has put up with my sick behavior, and through it all he still loved me unconditionally.
9. Because he tells me he loves me and shows me too.
10. Because he has made a commitment to me, to our family, and to making this work in healthy ways.
There was a time when I couldn't see past all of the hurt his drinking had caused, AND past my own sick behaviors. All I could see was a person with faults that needed to be changed, but NONE of it was because of my own behaviors/attitudes (yeah right). I feel very grateful that I wound up on this site when I did. Miracles have been happening ever since!! Thanks, everyone!
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Re: The 10 Reasons I Stayed..............
This is cool. I'll give this some serious thought a little later but I can't resist smarting off on my way through. 
Why I stayed- You've seen his picture, huh Aunt Daff?
Why I stay now- Er.... it just seems to be me and the cat here.
Why I stayed- You've seen his picture, huh Aunt Daff?
Why I stay now- Er.... it just seems to be me and the cat here.
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Re: The 10 Reasons I Stayed..............
OK Daffodil, I'm really trying here.
1. He has never hit me or threatened me and I'm not afraid of him
2. He has only called me names or said mean things a handful of times in 20 years
3. He works hard and loves his work
4. He isn't mean to the kids - just annoying to them
5. He grills dinner occasionally
6. He mows the yard occasionally
7. He stays outside most of the evening and goes hunting or fishing almost every weekend so I'm not really around him that much
8. He only drinks beer so it's not a lot of money.
9. He comes home at night.
10. He doesn't cost a lot for food because he rarely eats.
Sorry, those are pretty pitiful but that was hard. I don't feel like I really know him well enough anymore to point out what he does and doesn't do.
1. He has never hit me or threatened me and I'm not afraid of him
2. He has only called me names or said mean things a handful of times in 20 years
3. He works hard and loves his work
4. He isn't mean to the kids - just annoying to them
5. He grills dinner occasionally
6. He mows the yard occasionally
7. He stays outside most of the evening and goes hunting or fishing almost every weekend so I'm not really around him that much
8. He only drinks beer so it's not a lot of money.
9. He comes home at night.
10. He doesn't cost a lot for food because he rarely eats.
Sorry, those are pretty pitiful but that was hard. I don't feel like I really know him well enough anymore to point out what he does and doesn't do.
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Re: The 10 Reasons I Stayed..............
okay what is up with this
I stay because:
1) I love him, he is the love of my life
2) he makes me laugh
3) he is kind
4) he tells me that he loves me
5) he lets me see the little boy in him, and allows my little girl in me to come out.
6) he likes that I go to alanon
7) its okay that I am not perfect
8) he makes my heart skip a beat, and makes me feel that innocent love all over again, you know that first love. I forgot how that felt
9) he is special
10) he has helped me let my walls down
11) he smells good
12) he comes home at night
13) he loves spending time with me,
14) when he is working he works hard
15) when he is not using he does not lie
16) he is learning just like me how to be intimate, and it is fun to do all the stuff that we just did not know how to do together
17) we have a special bond
18) he is my dream and my destiny
19) when he smiles he has these dimples that could melt my heart, and i can not stay mad for too long
20) he is so handsome, I just love looking at him
21) he gives the best hugs in the whole world
and last but not least he is really trying to turn it around again, he was eight and 1/2 years c/s and relapsed, but when I met him he was c/s for the whole first year together, the good times out weigh the bad times, and the c/s him is the best guy in the world, since I know that our relationship is great in recovery together, I stay because I have hopes of it being that way again, and every so often in the midst of the relapse I get 2 weeks of that great guy back. Thanks for posting this, it is just what I needed.
I stay because:
1) I love him, he is the love of my life
2) he makes me laugh
3) he is kind
4) he tells me that he loves me
5) he lets me see the little boy in him, and allows my little girl in me to come out.
6) he likes that I go to alanon
7) its okay that I am not perfect
8) he makes my heart skip a beat, and makes me feel that innocent love all over again, you know that first love. I forgot how that felt
9) he is special
10) he has helped me let my walls down
11) he smells good
12) he comes home at night
13) he loves spending time with me,
14) when he is working he works hard
15) when he is not using he does not lie
16) he is learning just like me how to be intimate, and it is fun to do all the stuff that we just did not know how to do together
17) we have a special bond
18) he is my dream and my destiny
19) when he smiles he has these dimples that could melt my heart, and i can not stay mad for too long
20) he is so handsome, I just love looking at him
21) he gives the best hugs in the whole world
and last but not least he is really trying to turn it around again, he was eight and 1/2 years c/s and relapsed, but when I met him he was c/s for the whole first year together, the good times out weigh the bad times, and the c/s him is the best guy in the world, since I know that our relationship is great in recovery together, I stay because I have hopes of it being that way again, and every so often in the midst of the relapse I get 2 weeks of that great guy back. Thanks for posting this, it is just what I needed.
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Re: The 10 Reasons I Stayed..............
Top Ten Reasons Why I Stayed
1. It was my mother I felt I had no choice. I didn't want to live in a foster home because I was scared.
2. I was not a rebellious run-away type of child.
3. I was in denial of the situation as long as she was until just a couple of months ago.
4. I felt I had to take care of my family. Not just my alcoholic mother, but my little cousins, my grandparents...everyone. Thought since I was the one who did well in school and did everything right, it was okay for them to expect so much from me. Thought they couldnt handle it if I left.
5. Didn't give myself more options. Felt like I had to stay close at home even for college because I didnt want to abandon them.
6. I was afraid that if I left sooner than now, they would hate me forever and say/do hurtful things to me.
7. I love them enough to sacrifice my own happiness. Or so I thought sacrificing myself was loving them. I know that is wrong now though. I love me enough now not to sacrifice myself. I figured since I loved them so much, I should stick around and take care of them.
8. If I did everything right and if I did everything they told me to, they would love me one day. They would embrace me, hold me, and really love me for being such a good person. At this point, I see that day aint coming anytime soon.
9. I thought my family was normal. I figured most families have beers and play cards. It was all I knew. I never thought I would have had a better life elsewhere.
10. Did I mention that I loved them? I never wanted to do anything to hurt them. And reporting abuse to the state would have hurt them so badly. I stayed and sacrificed myself to prevent their tears and pain.
Now that I am old enough, I am no longer staying. Luckily, I managed to stay away from alcohol and drugs so my future children and husband wont be exposed to it. I never allowed my boyfriends or friends to come around me drunk, they know how I get when they drink around my. My current boyfriend doesnt drink at all. So, I am going to continue to recover. I think it is a life-long process but I am doing well. I wish I could find more positive reasons why I stayed but I was neglected, and verbally and mentally abused. The few precious moments I did have with my family are few and far between and follow quickly by bad terrible moments.
Thanx for this thread. I needed that.
~Def
1. It was my mother I felt I had no choice. I didn't want to live in a foster home because I was scared.
2. I was not a rebellious run-away type of child.
3. I was in denial of the situation as long as she was until just a couple of months ago.
4. I felt I had to take care of my family. Not just my alcoholic mother, but my little cousins, my grandparents...everyone. Thought since I was the one who did well in school and did everything right, it was okay for them to expect so much from me. Thought they couldnt handle it if I left.
5. Didn't give myself more options. Felt like I had to stay close at home even for college because I didnt want to abandon them.
6. I was afraid that if I left sooner than now, they would hate me forever and say/do hurtful things to me.
7. I love them enough to sacrifice my own happiness. Or so I thought sacrificing myself was loving them. I know that is wrong now though. I love me enough now not to sacrifice myself. I figured since I loved them so much, I should stick around and take care of them.
8. If I did everything right and if I did everything they told me to, they would love me one day. They would embrace me, hold me, and really love me for being such a good person. At this point, I see that day aint coming anytime soon.
9. I thought my family was normal. I figured most families have beers and play cards. It was all I knew. I never thought I would have had a better life elsewhere.
10. Did I mention that I loved them? I never wanted to do anything to hurt them. And reporting abuse to the state would have hurt them so badly. I stayed and sacrificed myself to prevent their tears and pain.
Now that I am old enough, I am no longer staying. Luckily, I managed to stay away from alcohol and drugs so my future children and husband wont be exposed to it. I never allowed my boyfriends or friends to come around me drunk, they know how I get when they drink around my. My current boyfriend doesnt drink at all. So, I am going to continue to recover. I think it is a life-long process but I am doing well. I wish I could find more positive reasons why I stayed but I was neglected, and verbally and mentally abused. The few precious moments I did have with my family are few and far between and follow quickly by bad terrible moments.
Thanx for this thread. I needed that.
~Def
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Re: The 10 Reasons I Stayed..............
Dear Daffodil,
What a GREAT POST and what a great sense of humor you have! Rosebushes, not roses, that did it for me. Is it out of line to say this guy might be a keeper? Maybe worth the trouble? Someone that cares for wild animals and hummingbird feeders, that's a good sign! I'm a sucker for kindness........thanks for the smiles.
What a GREAT POST and what a great sense of humor you have! Rosebushes, not roses, that did it for me. Is it out of line to say this guy might be a keeper? Maybe worth the trouble? Someone that cares for wild animals and hummingbird feeders, that's a good sign! I'm a sucker for kindness........thanks for the smiles.
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Re: The 10 Reasons I Stayed..............
Thank you so much for this thread Daffodil :throb The "leaving him" thoughts have been on my mind, but you've made me step back and look at him and see how lucky and thankful I am for the man in my life.
I will make a list too but I'm off to a meeting right now.
Smoke...you are too funny, I'm with ya though it would be just me and the dog! :LMAO
I will make a list too but I'm off to a meeting right now.
Smoke...you are too funny, I'm with ya though it would be just me and the dog! :LMAO
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Re: The 10 Reasons I Stayed..............
Daff I love you!! This is an awesome thread!! We ARE sisters...
I am married to an active alcoholic and this is why I stay...
1. Because he loves me and he shows me...more than I show him.
2. Because I never have to do anything with my car.
3. Because I never have to mow the lawn or take the garbage out.
4. Because he works hard everyday to make sure we are secure.
5. He is the BEST Grampa.
6. Because I can get takeout whenever I want or he will cook.
7. Because he trusts my program even when he doesn't understand it.
8. Because he never forgets to kiss me goodbye.
9. Because he falls asleep early :LMAO
10. Because I can see myself growing old with him...he grows up a little more everyday.
Thanks Daff!
JT
I am married to an active alcoholic and this is why I stay...
1. Because he loves me and he shows me...more than I show him.
2. Because I never have to do anything with my car.
3. Because I never have to mow the lawn or take the garbage out.
4. Because he works hard everyday to make sure we are secure.
5. He is the BEST Grampa.
6. Because I can get takeout whenever I want or he will cook.
7. Because he trusts my program even when he doesn't understand it.
8. Because he never forgets to kiss me goodbye.
9. Because he falls asleep early :LMAO
10. Because I can see myself growing old with him...he grows up a little more everyday.
Thanks Daff!
JT
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Re: The 10 Reasons I Stayed..............
My A is my son who is in recovery, but I just had to stop here and say how beautiful this thread is Daff, just like you!
And one Mother's day I asked my husband for something for the garden rather than the fresh flowers he usually buys. I was thinking a nice rose bush or something I could enjoy all summer. He was thinking 5 bags of dirt!!! Not just ordinary dirt, but a 3 dirt combo, ever so special. Well his heart was in it, so I bought my own rosebush and still enjoyed it all summer.
Thanks for making my day a little brighter.
Hugs
Ann
And one Mother's day I asked my husband for something for the garden rather than the fresh flowers he usually buys. I was thinking a nice rose bush or something I could enjoy all summer. He was thinking 5 bags of dirt!!! Not just ordinary dirt, but a 3 dirt combo, ever so special. Well his heart was in it, so I bought my own rosebush and still enjoyed it all summer.
Thanks for making my day a little brighter.
Hugs
Ann
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Re: The 10 Reasons I Stayed..............
Daff, this is one AWESOME thread!
You made me think today - I love it when people do that!
Let's see.
My reasons for staying before:
1. My mom stayed with my dad throughout his addiction - I thought wives were supposed to stay.
2. I thought I could fix and save him.
3. I thought he needed me to straighten out his life.
4. No one loved and believed in him like I did.
5. He was the first person to choose me over everyone else.
6. By being with him, I would never be alone.
Why I stay now:
1. I love him and accept him for who he is.
2. He loves me and accepts me for who I am, even during the worst of my codependency.
3. He supports my dreams and my recovery.
4. I only have to cook when I want to.
5. He cleans and vacuums the house, way better than me.
6. He tells me I'm beautiful.
7. He treats me with respect and is my biggest fan.
8. He loves and supports my family and friends.
9. He works extremely hard, is very ambitious, and goes after his dreams.
10. I'm not allowed to mow the lawn.
11. He trusts me and gives me the freedom to pursue anything I want, way more than I do him.
12. He always opens doors for me and always kisses me hello and goodbye.
Thanks again Aunt Daffy!
You made me think today - I love it when people do that!
Let's see.
My reasons for staying before:
1. My mom stayed with my dad throughout his addiction - I thought wives were supposed to stay.
2. I thought I could fix and save him.
3. I thought he needed me to straighten out his life.
4. No one loved and believed in him like I did.
5. He was the first person to choose me over everyone else.
6. By being with him, I would never be alone.
Why I stay now:
1. I love him and accept him for who he is.
2. He loves me and accepts me for who I am, even during the worst of my codependency.
3. He supports my dreams and my recovery.
4. I only have to cook when I want to.
5. He cleans and vacuums the house, way better than me.
6. He tells me I'm beautiful.
7. He treats me with respect and is my biggest fan.
8. He loves and supports my family and friends.
9. He works extremely hard, is very ambitious, and goes after his dreams.
10. I'm not allowed to mow the lawn.
11. He trusts me and gives me the freedom to pursue anything I want, way more than I do him.
12. He always opens doors for me and always kisses me hello and goodbye.
Thanks again Aunt Daffy!
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Re: The 10 Reasons I Stayed..............
I absolutely love this thread. My sponsor actually had me write a list of 25 reasons I loved my husband. It was over a year ago, and it was hard to do.
Reasons I used to stay:
1. I had to have the perfect life, so I couldn't admit anything was even wrong.
2. People in MY family didn't divorce. You stay NO MATTER WHAT!
3. He loved me, would anyone else?
4. Everyone always told me how lucky I was to have him.
5. I was afraid to be alone.
Reasons I stay today:
1. He loves me, and I love him (in a healthy, compassionate, you are who you are kind of way)
2. He works a program to be respected.
3. He is where he says he will be.
4. He is a great dad.
5. He keeps the kitchen cleaner than I ever would.
6. He is someone I can truly share who I am with.
7. He is going to spend the summer putting in a pool and deck for me and the kids. (He couldn't care less if we have one).
8. He tells me when I get in the codependent crazies.
9. He supports me in whatever I want to do. (An area I could use improvement in).
10. He works at a job that bores him, just to support his family.
11. I never have to do any home or car maintenance.
Reasons I used to stay:
1. I had to have the perfect life, so I couldn't admit anything was even wrong.
2. People in MY family didn't divorce. You stay NO MATTER WHAT!
3. He loved me, would anyone else?
4. Everyone always told me how lucky I was to have him.
5. I was afraid to be alone.
Reasons I stay today:
1. He loves me, and I love him (in a healthy, compassionate, you are who you are kind of way)
2. He works a program to be respected.
3. He is where he says he will be.
4. He is a great dad.
5. He keeps the kitchen cleaner than I ever would.
6. He is someone I can truly share who I am with.
7. He is going to spend the summer putting in a pool and deck for me and the kids. (He couldn't care less if we have one).
8. He tells me when I get in the codependent crazies.
9. He supports me in whatever I want to do. (An area I could use improvement in).
10. He works at a job that bores him, just to support his family.
11. I never have to do any home or car maintenance.
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Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: Placerville, Ca
Posts: 251
This is a wonderful thread--It has hope and courage all over it--not to mention humor
and LOVE. Wish I could come up with a list I'll think about it. Thank you for the
wonderful read.--Love and smiles--Dee
and LOVE. Wish I could come up with a list I'll think about it. Thank you for the
wonderful read.--Love and smiles--Dee
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And my top 10 reasons...NOT for staying, but rather for NOT making him leave...
10. He loves to vacuum.
9. He makes me laugh...a lot.
8. He says please and thank you often.
7. He wants to do well.
6. He is loyal and a good friend.
5. I have been in love with him my entire adult life.
4. He has great cheek bones.
3. He adores our children and is an incredible father.
2. He is trying, so very hard.
1. He is my husband. THAT does mean something.
My top 10 reasons for ME not leaving...
10. I am scared.
9. I am secure in my home.
8. I am terrified.
7. I don't want to be a single parent.
6. I do love him, very much.
5. I am paralyzed with fear.
4. I can not do it financially.
3. I do not want my children to not see their father every day.
2. I can't imagine life without him.
1. He is my husband. THAT does mean something.
Hmmmmmmmm...interesting.
Thank you.
Jenny
10. He loves to vacuum.
9. He makes me laugh...a lot.
8. He says please and thank you often.
7. He wants to do well.
6. He is loyal and a good friend.
5. I have been in love with him my entire adult life.
4. He has great cheek bones.
3. He adores our children and is an incredible father.
2. He is trying, so very hard.
1. He is my husband. THAT does mean something.
My top 10 reasons for ME not leaving...
10. I am scared.
9. I am secure in my home.
8. I am terrified.
7. I don't want to be a single parent.
6. I do love him, very much.
5. I am paralyzed with fear.
4. I can not do it financially.
3. I do not want my children to not see their father every day.
2. I can't imagine life without him.
1. He is my husband. THAT does mean something.
Hmmmmmmmm...interesting.
Thank you.
Jenny
I'm more than the drunk's wife
Join Date: Dec 2004
Location: colorado
Posts: 9
tonight..I don't know
tonight.. I couldn't tell you why on earth I'm still here..
he's drinking and driving me freakin' crazy.. with his idiocy and chatter.. :yelling
ok, we had a great day.. he took our youngest son skiing, and they laughed and played..and all went really great..and than he made a wonderful dinner.. after going shopping ..
he's a wonderful person..
just really really irritating tonight..
he chops the wood for the fireplace.
he's my friend.
he's my family
he's my wall and keeps us safe.
he provides.
he is fun to be with
thank you.. I'm not so angry and pissed off so much anymore..
he's drinking and driving me freakin' crazy.. with his idiocy and chatter.. :yelling
ok, we had a great day.. he took our youngest son skiing, and they laughed and played..and all went really great..and than he made a wonderful dinner.. after going shopping ..
he's a wonderful person..
just really really irritating tonight..
he chops the wood for the fireplace.
he's my friend.
he's my family
he's my wall and keeps us safe.
he provides.
he is fun to be with
thank you.. I'm not so angry and pissed off so much anymore..
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