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Old 01-29-2013, 08:51 AM
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Heading into 3rd month of NC

and today it is really hard for some reason.
Very foggy and rainy here and that doesn't help my mood.
People are asking me if everything is ok, how I'm not acting like myself.
I'm lethargic, watery eyes-just plain sad.

Today I'm missing the FANTASY of him...Still working with my therapist so I know this will pass, but it's sure a bummer of a day...

Thank you for reading this...
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Old 01-29-2013, 08:59 AM
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((((hugs))))

Sorry you are feeling down.

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Old 01-29-2013, 09:02 AM
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Hang in there,this too shall pass.
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Old 01-29-2013, 09:51 AM
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Try to do something for yourself - get through the day- remind yourself tomorrow will be a better day! Hugs -
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Thanks everyone-
Yes, getting through this day is my goal, and I know I will..
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Hi AL....today is 3 months since I last saw my axbf, I dropped him off on Oct. 29th, he did some really stupid things that week (all drinking related) and ended it over the phone 5 days later. I have been mostly no contact, I'm not going to lie, a few slips here and there once I realized he truly wasn't coming back this time.....and then last week I heard he was seen with a young blond girl at the liquor store. No contact is so damn hard but now I'm finally angry so I have no desire to have contact with him.....but today I am sad. It is cloudy and foggy and damp here too and I feel so miserable and yucky and keep thinking that he's all happy with his new gf...uggh. Get through today, it will be empowering for you, and then keep it up one day at a time. I did read all your threads and was kind of confused.....you had been no contact a few times before...but then what happened? Did you get back with him or just start talking again? You can email me back privately if you want or just let it go if you don't want to talk about it. I am proud of you for going through 3 straight months, give yourself some credit! Take care, and hugs.
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Old 01-29-2013, 01:29 PM
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I'm sorry, yes it is difficult!

I am having a hard time with no contact myself, I see him (briefly) a lot since he took a job across the street.

I did call him a few weeks ago too so I'm also starting over and trying not to look at the pics on his website. Not obsessing is so difficult but I haven't cried in a few weeks. It's been 6 months for me, you will get over it, hang in there... I have been angry and depressed for months but feeling better lately. When I think back to the disrespectful way he treated me I am just glad he's gone.
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Old 01-29-2013, 01:31 PM
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I don't mind replying on here.

Yes, we got back together many times-I, like many others thought it would be different..
It got to the point where I could feel when he was going to contact me and when he was getting ready to disappear. So attentive in the beginning then a few months later slight changes, then poof-he was gone.
It was so mentally exhausting that I finally started seeing a therapist in Dec and she has been a great help.

This time is will be different, because for my own sanity, it HAS to be different....
Thank you for asking-i wish you well.
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Old 01-29-2013, 01:53 PM
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Thanks everyone-
Yes, getting through this day is my goal, and I know I will..
One day at a time, yes. Putting the focus on me helped, getting a seasonal job, working out, snagging a few new clothes from the clearance rack, hanging with people who love and value me. You will feel better as time goes on. Be patient and kind to yourself.
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BrokenRose, He's not happy with his new girlfriend. Same old same old. Remember that!!
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