Treatment or Divorce. Pick one.
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Originally Posted by BoxinRotz 
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This was on my radio when I got in my truck to go to work last night. It hits me to the core of how I want him to feel. Not be afraid. To settle down. I want him to find his inner peace, not for me but for him. He deserves peace.
This was on my radio when I got in my truck to go to work last night. It hits me to the core of how I want him to feel. Not be afraid. To settle down. I want him to find his inner peace, not for me but for him. He deserves peace.
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Hey, been in your situation (I still am, sort of). Was getting tired of the ridiculous drinking, choosing booze over me/his job, etc. he was never cruel to me but seriously needed to grow up. Ended up filing for divorce - it will be finalised in Jan. I gave him the same ultimatum but realised I wouldn't get over him basically ignoring me for years while he drank and used drugs, even if he did stop. It broke my heart but I did it. Now have no money, can barely afford rent/food, but I am so much calmer and happier now. It's been a tough road but worth it. I would hope they would get better but after listening to excuses and lies for so long I was done. So, what I'm saying is - you deserve to be happy/treated with respect/loved, and if you're not getting that, get rid of him. Maybe you leaving will change something in him, but maybe it won't. You are worth so much more than this.
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I told him to grow the fawk up yesterday before I left for work.
He just told me a bit ago that he wanted one last fling. I was like WHAT?! He said that's what I was doing because I know it's over. SMH... What the hell do you say to that? QUACK QUACK
I told him, I will leave and you can't hide it! Try as you may, I know when you drink and it's not a threat but a promise and I don't know when I'll come back, if I do. He says, I know. I said, You have to kill this DEMON Jim. It has to be over. He said, I know.
Time will tell. But he p!sses on my leg and tells me it's raining. He gives me no reason to believe him other than what I see and that will take time.
He just told me a bit ago that he wanted one last fling. I was like WHAT?! He said that's what I was doing because I know it's over. SMH... What the hell do you say to that? QUACK QUACK
I told him, I will leave and you can't hide it! Try as you may, I know when you drink and it's not a threat but a promise and I don't know when I'll come back, if I do. He says, I know. I said, You have to kill this DEMON Jim. It has to be over. He said, I know.
Time will tell. But he p!sses on my leg and tells me it's raining. He gives me no reason to believe him other than what I see and that will take time.
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I'm lucky. Wife was quietly in stage 3 on her way to 4 when we met and it got awful. When it did I could not deal with it and made her leave. When she came back it was clearly stated that I will not watch her die.
I'm saying I'm lucky because had it taken years to get that bad I might not have been as stunned because it would be more gradual - sounds like many are in that situation and it is a lot harder to change the rules midstream.
That's got to be harder :-(
I'm saying I'm lucky because had it taken years to get that bad I might not have been as stunned because it would be more gradual - sounds like many are in that situation and it is a lot harder to change the rules midstream.
That's got to be harder :-(
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