3 guesses - what does the AH do when wife kindly suggests he go to rehab?
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Drunk text you and say:
Baby! I love you! I will do ANYTHING (except stop drinking) to save this marriage! (even if I have to hide it, lie and act like a normal person)
Call you and throw everything you've ever done wrong in your face... Oh and YOU AREN'T PERFECT!
Uhhhh... Ignore you while he mutters... fawk that?
lol What do we win if we are right?
Baby! I love you! I will do ANYTHING (except stop drinking) to save this marriage! (even if I have to hide it, lie and act like a normal person)
Call you and throw everything you've ever done wrong in your face... Oh and YOU AREN'T PERFECT!
Uhhhh... Ignore you while he mutters... fawk that?
lol What do we win if we are right?
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Guess 1 - goes and gets drunk because you "stress him out"
Guess 2 - lets you know that "his drinking is your problem and not his"
Guess 3 - runs to the bar to hang out with his friends because "you are too controlling"
Guess 2 - lets you know that "his drinking is your problem and not his"
Guess 3 - runs to the bar to hang out with his friends because "you are too controlling"
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Guess 1) It's not that, I'm just so tired, all I need is to get a good nights sleep.
Guess 2) Changed the subject and refused to even acknowledge anything about drinking
Guess 3) Just hung up the phone, and didn't answer any calls back'
Guess 2) Changed the subject and refused to even acknowledge anything about drinking
Guess 3) Just hung up the phone, and didn't answer any calls back'
He goes out and gets REALLY, REALLY drunk. Because he is justified--with all this stress you are causing him.Member
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1. 2. Tells you that he wouldn't drink so much if you weren't such a bi+cH or (fill in the blank).
3. Tells you that he'll be thinking about that when he drinks that night.
Tells you he doesn't have a problem, that he drinks because he likes it, and that he can quit whenever he wants to?
3. Tells you that he'll be thinking about that when he drinks that night.
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Ok this is just so scary because the serious guesses are so dead on what I've seen since I let AW know that we would be following through on the any drinking at all equals rehab agreement.
Recriminations and guilt - you are beating me down and risking my recovery by driving me to drink.
Turning it around: how would you like to be reminded of x y and z all the time, I feel awful enough
Threatening to leave: all I can focus I is recovery and baby and if you keep upsetting me over this then maybe I need to leave you and focus on those two things
Wow... It's a little bit of a relief to see this is normal... I redefine normal on a daily basis.
Lol. What would a normal person do of their spouse said they have a problem and need to go to rehab - cry with grief and fear
What would we do? Cry tears of joy and gratitude and hope.
I love my wife, I can endure whatever is next if it leads to her being safe
Recriminations and guilt - you are beating me down and risking my recovery by driving me to drink.
Turning it around: how would you like to be reminded of x y and z all the time, I feel awful enough
Threatening to leave: all I can focus I is recovery and baby and if you keep upsetting me over this then maybe I need to leave you and focus on those two things
Wow... It's a little bit of a relief to see this is normal... I redefine normal on a daily basis.
Lol. What would a normal person do of their spouse said they have a problem and need to go to rehab - cry with grief and fear
What would we do? Cry tears of joy and gratitude and hope.
I love my wife, I can endure whatever is next if it leads to her being safe
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And the winner is...Amy55!!!
And probably most everyone else who responded.
. He's too far away for me to know how drunk he got last night!!! If only the house cats could talk - they'd have stories to tell. Miaow!
I woke up this morning laughing my head off, thanks to you guys. Then I went to the gym, had a great workout, saw lots of friends, and I'm still smiling broadly. I don't know why exactly, but it's such a relief to have done my best, stuck to the high road, acted kindly, and kept as well as possible, out of harm's way.
Boy, he's sick in the head. Yep, 5 minutes after getting my email saying finally that, no, he can't stay in the apartment with us because last time the neighbors had to call the police and the children were afraid and crying - he said he was calling a divorce attorney.
How can he be expected to cope with this crazy woman who finds him a lovely farmhouse in the countryside where he can rest and work on his recovery?!
There were years when I was so angry and confused, living with lies and his cruel manipulations. It's been just lovely to change tracks, detach, and move on with kindness.
Thanks for being there!!!))))
And probably most everyone else who responded.
. He's too far away for me to know how drunk he got last night!!! If only the house cats could talk - they'd have stories to tell. Miaow!I woke up this morning laughing my head off, thanks to you guys. Then I went to the gym, had a great workout, saw lots of friends, and I'm still smiling broadly. I don't know why exactly, but it's such a relief to have done my best, stuck to the high road, acted kindly, and kept as well as possible, out of harm's way.
Boy, he's sick in the head. Yep, 5 minutes after getting my email saying finally that, no, he can't stay in the apartment with us because last time the neighbors had to call the police and the children were afraid and crying - he said he was calling a divorce attorney.
How can he be expected to cope with this crazy woman who finds him a lovely farmhouse in the countryside where he can rest and work on his recovery?!
There were years when I was so angry and confused, living with lies and his cruel manipulations. It's been just lovely to change tracks, detach, and move on with kindness.
Thanks for being there!!!
))))
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You were planning of divorcing him right? I think I remember reading that you were nervous about how/when to approach.
Now he is the one that put it on the table WHAT A GIFT!!!! Seriously, I would run with that all the way to my own attorney.
Glad you got lots of laughs I did too!
Now he is the one that put it on the table WHAT A GIFT!!!! Seriously, I would run with that all the way to my own attorney.
Glad you got lots of laughs I did too!
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[QUOTE=PippiLngstockng;3706380]And the winner is...Amy55!!!
he said he was calling a divorce attorney.
Thank you, thank you, as I take my bows.
When this happened to me, I replied with, "oh, thank you, what a relief that if, and when they come to serve me with the divorce papers, I am going to hug that person so hard, he's going to think he just had sex".
Also think everyone else won this also, because 1. no doubt about it, he would have gotten drunk after this. 2. He will start sending hate emails, then later love emails, then back to hate, and so on. 3. Of course, he thinks you're nuts. 4. When nothing else works, he might even agree to go to rehab, or to stop drinking.
Anyways, glad that you had a good morning !!!!!!!!!
Maybe he will just get so mad, that he will refuse to visit you during the holidays.
he said he was calling a divorce attorney.
Thank you, thank you, as I take my bows.
When this happened to me, I replied with, "oh, thank you, what a relief that if, and when they come to serve me with the divorce papers, I am going to hug that person so hard, he's going to think he just had sex".
Also think everyone else won this also, because 1. no doubt about it, he would have gotten drunk after this. 2. He will start sending hate emails, then later love emails, then back to hate, and so on. 3. Of course, he thinks you're nuts. 4. When nothing else works, he might even agree to go to rehab, or to stop drinking.
Anyways, glad that you had a good morning !!!!!!!!!
Maybe he will just get so mad, that he will refuse to visit you during the holidays.
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