Miserable
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Originally Posted by Patsy22 
I am sorry but at the moment I'm finding it difficult to understand what part of God's plan this total awfulness is.
"It seems almost too simple to be true, but acceptance -- accepting things exactly as they are -- can be the key that unlocks the door to happiness.
After John 3:16, it may be one of the most quoted passages in literature. It's from Page 449 (first 3 editions, pg. 417 in the 4th edition) of Alcoholics Anonymous or The Big Book as it is widely known:
And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.
Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God's world by mistake. "
Kindest thoughts and prayers,
Zube
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Acceptance
Thank you
I suppose somehow I have to accept that my life is never going to be the same again. In some ways my life is already enriched because I am starting to do things I had stopped when I was in this relationship because at first he behaved so badly when drunk that I was anxious if I was at yoga or singing class. The sad thing is that over the last years he had almost stopped drinking and all the abuse and the violence were gone. I do forgive him and I feel really sorry for him. All this stuff with his family is really hurting me though I could cope with not seeing him if he could get through this for himself. It will take me a lot longer to forgive them though.
I suppose somehow I have to accept that my life is never going to be the same again. In some ways my life is already enriched because I am starting to do things I had stopped when I was in this relationship because at first he behaved so badly when drunk that I was anxious if I was at yoga or singing class. The sad thing is that over the last years he had almost stopped drinking and all the abuse and the violence were gone. I do forgive him and I feel really sorry for him. All this stuff with his family is really hurting me though I could cope with not seeing him if he could get through this for himself. It will take me a lot longer to forgive them though.
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Patsy,
I find comfort in repeating the Serenity Prayer. Here is my edited version:
Grant me the serenity to accept things I can not change (people, places, things)
The courage to change the things I can, (me myself and I)
and the Wisdom to know the difference.
I find comfort in repeating the Serenity Prayer. Here is my edited version:
Grant me the serenity to accept things I can not change (people, places, things)
The courage to change the things I can, (me myself and I)
and the Wisdom to know the difference.
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