desperatesister

So the latest update--my sister has been in jail for 3 months now. She just called me (collect and I accepted) for the first time. I told her that I wasn't in a position to help her financially and that I loved her but I really didn't want any chaos in my life. She cried and said that she didn't want anything from me but just wanted my support. She is trying to get a PR bond to get released to a group home where she can work and live sober.
I don't trust that this is true as I have heard it all before and I am worried that I will get sucked in again.
So here's the question--How do you support someone's sobriety without enabling them?
I have been living with the no contact rule for a while totally detached. I think its fine for her to be in jail. I know that she is safe, has a bed, and is getting three meals a day.

desperatesister

Now I am catching crap from my husband just for talking to her because he is saying I am going to get sucked in!

Pelican

I can understand wanting to see her succeed.
I also understand wanting to protect yourself from the drama of her addiction.

I like the Alanon slogan: Be Patient, More will be revealed.

If it is meant to be for her to find a way to the group home, she will find her own way. Then she can be responsible for her own future.

Redapples

Your husband is protecting you. He has seen the crap you have been through he has been through the crap you have been through. I don't think he wants you to go down that road again.

I like what Pelican wrote if she is meant to be in that group home she will get there and not with your help.

dollydo

He may be right!

She is in the HP hands, she will be directed according to the desiginated plan. I say::codiepolice