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we are awesome people
to all the loved ones of addicts
i have come to a new found reasoning, this enlightment if you will or nirvana of ideas.
spousal expectations- to love them, through sickness and in health correct? to have and to hold? spouses expect honesty, devotion, love, trust and respect....ah ha!! WE do all this some of us suffer in the palms of loving our addicted husbands/wives for many many years and still doing all of this.
we arent married....yet- isnt a relationship an extension of what we expect in a lifelong partner.....and if we are in a commited relationship then we give to our significant other the qualities of a husband and wife.
The best of friends- to give a place to stay, money to borrow and someone to talk to. wow! what a wonderful friend...right?
born together love forever- Doesnt a person just adore their sibling? even when they are wrong...we just love them to death. we will tell them when they are wrong and praise them when they are right but stand by them even if they dont know they are stuck between right and wrong.
our hearts- we love our children more than we will ever love ourselves, we cradle them, nurse them, rock them to sleep, we relive all the beauties of the world in our children. a childs christmas (isnt that just the best christmas?) a childs views on the world (isnt it the most entertaining?) we would leap off the side of the world if it meant our child would be happy and healthy. i dont think a person could give more love and time than that of a parent.
so im thinking about all of the posts ive read on here and of all the people who have given and done and loved and how hard we hurt for our loved ones and how broken and defeated we feel but the truth is WE ARE AWESOME!
we go through MORE than others we know and we do it day after day years after years because we not only are good people but we are loving trying people.
i see so many people who give it their all, and even when they are left to feel the stuggles of given their all they come onto soberrecovery they stay strong by seeking for help and by helping others.
if we can feel abunduntly and love abunduntly and give until we break then this says more about OUR CHARACTER as a positive loving individual than it does a lost one.
thats not to say that we should not make or learn boundaries or live less dependant upon our loved ones and what they are doing to themselves but that if we can push ourselves and others to do better and if we put up with so much that has us feel weak well thats not weakness that is strength and that is learning from our mistakes and moving forward and putting a big fat stamp on the definition of strive.
i have come to a new found reasoning, this enlightment if you will or nirvana of ideas.
spousal expectations- to love them, through sickness and in health correct? to have and to hold? spouses expect honesty, devotion, love, trust and respect....ah ha!! WE do all this some of us suffer in the palms of loving our addicted husbands/wives for many many years and still doing all of this.
we arent married....yet- isnt a relationship an extension of what we expect in a lifelong partner.....and if we are in a commited relationship then we give to our significant other the qualities of a husband and wife.
The best of friends- to give a place to stay, money to borrow and someone to talk to. wow! what a wonderful friend...right?
born together love forever- Doesnt a person just adore their sibling? even when they are wrong...we just love them to death. we will tell them when they are wrong and praise them when they are right but stand by them even if they dont know they are stuck between right and wrong.
our hearts- we love our children more than we will ever love ourselves, we cradle them, nurse them, rock them to sleep, we relive all the beauties of the world in our children. a childs christmas (isnt that just the best christmas?) a childs views on the world (isnt it the most entertaining?) we would leap off the side of the world if it meant our child would be happy and healthy. i dont think a person could give more love and time than that of a parent.
so im thinking about all of the posts ive read on here and of all the people who have given and done and loved and how hard we hurt for our loved ones and how broken and defeated we feel but the truth is WE ARE AWESOME!
we go through MORE than others we know and we do it day after day years after years because we not only are good people but we are loving trying people.
i see so many people who give it their all, and even when they are left to feel the stuggles of given their all they come onto soberrecovery they stay strong by seeking for help and by helping others.
if we can feel abunduntly and love abunduntly and give until we break then this says more about OUR CHARACTER as a positive loving individual than it does a lost one.
thats not to say that we should not make or learn boundaries or live less dependant upon our loved ones and what they are doing to themselves but that if we can push ourselves and others to do better and if we put up with so much that has us feel weak well thats not weakness that is strength and that is learning from our mistakes and moving forward and putting a big fat stamp on the definition of strive.
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