i've left him tonight dont know what i'm doing
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i've left him tonight dont know what i'm doing
hi there, husband two years, alcoholic, broken promises, manipulative etc you know the usual, told him last week i needed some space to sort my head out, just ignored me, said again tonight he said he couldnt leave as too late, his friend lives an hour away mine lives ten mins away so i left with kids. he was vile to me said it was all my fault things arent working out and i needed to get some help as i was depressed. said in a threatening way 'i'd get what i wanted' dont know what he meant but he was really angry with me. i need space to decide how i feel about him, what i should do and if we can work things out but i know if we have space he'll hold it against me forever, i dont want to give up on marriage i just dont know what to do
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The first thing is to make sure you are safe and can remain safe. You are not going to figure out long term what is happening right now. Just stay in a safe place where you can keep the children in an environment where they know they are secure as well.
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Take some time for yourself & your children.
There's no need to make any decisions now as you will have a lot of emotion to deal with.
Do not enter into or believe any of his blame, threats, nastiness etc.
This is about you, so take time for you.
Big hugs, I know its hard.
There's no need to make any decisions now as you will have a lot of emotion to deal with.
Do not enter into or believe any of his blame, threats, nastiness etc.
This is about you, so take time for you.
Big hugs, I know its hard.
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Big hugs to you!
Like all have said, there is no need (or way) to figure everything out right now. You are in crisis mode and it's not the time for doing anything but getting OUT of crisis mode. Decompress, breathe, just get some level ground beneath your feet.
Good for you for standing up for what you need. Of course he lashed out and tried to blame everything on you; that's what they do. He has a vested interest in keeping you off balance so the focus never shifts to him and his problems and behavior. You have made a courageous first step out of that game.
((((((hugs to you)))))))
Like all have said, there is no need (or way) to figure everything out right now. You are in crisis mode and it's not the time for doing anything but getting OUT of crisis mode. Decompress, breathe, just get some level ground beneath your feet.
Good for you for standing up for what you need. Of course he lashed out and tried to blame everything on you; that's what they do. He has a vested interest in keeping you off balance so the focus never shifts to him and his problems and behavior. You have made a courageous first step out of that game.
((((((hugs to you)))))))
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