i'm feeling so...
i'm feeling so...
worthless this morning. i guess i'm letting all of his negativity and the cruel things he's said really get me down. i'm so tired of always being his doormat and having everything turned around onto me. this is no kind of life, that's for sure! i had hopes for our relationship now that he's not drinking (or is he?!?), but all he gives me is sadness. and all he does is point his finger at me and tell me i need to be evaluated for depression (which is probably true...). the last six months of emotional and verbal abuse, coupled with two break-ups and one reconciliation are weighing so heavily on me. i know i have forgiven him a lot, but there's quite a bit more that i need to work on.
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Shawty,
You are definitely not worthless although I know how you feel!
I like this quote by Eleanor Roosevelt: "No One Can Make You Feel Inferior Without Your Consent"
It is difficult though, when you are with someone who tends to be abusive. The constant put downs, insults and bad moods can really get to you and your self esteem is impacted. So maybe you should see someone about depression if you think it's a problem? Meanwhile try not to define your self worth over a relationship and what this man thinks of you! I could do nothing right in the eyes of my aex but I had to realize I would love myself no matter what!
You are definitely not worthless although I know how you feel!
I like this quote by Eleanor Roosevelt: "No One Can Make You Feel Inferior Without Your Consent"
It is difficult though, when you are with someone who tends to be abusive. The constant put downs, insults and bad moods can really get to you and your self esteem is impacted. So maybe you should see someone about depression if you think it's a problem? Meanwhile try not to define your self worth over a relationship and what this man thinks of you! I could do nothing right in the eyes of my aex but I had to realize I would love myself no matter what!
Hi shawty, I'm sorry you are still in such pain over this man. I hope and pray that you will soon realize that being in a relationship with him or any other man does not make you worthwhile as a human being. You, just you, deserve to be treated with dignity, respect, and love.
It doesn't sound as though he is capable of those things even if he is not drinking.
Sending you hugs and warm thoughts!
It doesn't sound as though he is capable of those things even if he is not drinking.
Sending you hugs and warm thoughts!
Shawty,
You are definitely not worthless although I know how you feel!
I like this quote by Eleanor Roosevelt: "No One Can Make You Feel Inferior Without Your Consent"
It is difficult though, when you are with someone who tends to be abusive. The constant put downs, insults and bad moods can really get to you and your self esteem is impacted. So maybe you should see someone about depression if you think it's a problem? Meanwhile try not to define your self worth over a relationship and what this man thinks of you! I could do nothing right in the eyes of my aex but I had to realize I would love myself no matter what!
You are definitely not worthless although I know how you feel!
I like this quote by Eleanor Roosevelt: "No One Can Make You Feel Inferior Without Your Consent"
It is difficult though, when you are with someone who tends to be abusive. The constant put downs, insults and bad moods can really get to you and your self esteem is impacted. So maybe you should see someone about depression if you think it's a problem? Meanwhile try not to define your self worth over a relationship and what this man thinks of you! I could do nothing right in the eyes of my aex but I had to realize I would love myself no matter what!
my mom and i spent some time together today, and i kept thinking about what you wrote. it hit me as we were walking into our local convention center that you are exactly right...NOTHING i do will be right in his eyes. he thinks i need an anti-depressant (actually, he told me yesterday he thinks a therapist would diagnose me with bipolar tendencies. my therapist friend called horsesh*t on that...). so what if i go see my doctor and start taking medication? i won't be "insane" anymore as he thinks i am, so what will he pick out NEXT to be my greatest fault?
as my mom and i walked around the convention center, we kept running into friends and students (former and current) of mine who were genuinely happy to see me. not a single one of them thinks i'm even remotely insane...
it's crazy to me how similar our stories are. the timing of everything is always so close!!
big hugs to you, too, my dear.
Hi shawty, I'm sorry you are still in such pain over this man. I hope and pray that you will soon realize that being in a relationship with him or any other man does not make you worthwhile as a human being. You, just you, deserve to be treated with dignity, respect, and love.
It doesn't sound as though he is capable of those things even if he is not drinking.
Sending you hugs and warm thoughts!
It doesn't sound as though he is capable of those things even if he is not drinking.
Sending you hugs and warm thoughts!
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Yes, I have been there! Nothing I did was ever right, he would freak out over the stooopidest things. Who wants to walk around on eggshells for fear of upsetting someone? Can you love and accept you for who you are? it sounds doubtful. And then what's he point of being in a relationship with someone like that?
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