fluffyflea

I was reading some excerpts from Lundy Bancrofts book about abusive men.

My S.O isn,t the extremme that others in my life were, not ever physically violent but is definitely a very controlling person and along with control comes emotional abuse. It,s strange, I can revert back to being a little kid with him the same feelings when I couldn,t take care of myself and stand up for myself. I'm working very hard on changing that about me now with all the stuff I,m learning through ACOA.

I told him last night that I ,m afraid to talk about certain things with him because I,m afraid of his anger. So that was a step forward. I,m afraid of anger and abandonment.

ZiggyB

I got that book too... what I had was the Demand Man and Mr. Right rolled into one toxic ball. I was afraid of his anger too... but I would also be careful about what you do tell him, because when I was honest about my feelings he would find some way to insult me and humiliate me with it later. Sad but true. Look out for yourself and don't hesitate to get help if you need it.