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Old 10-21-2012, 07:59 PM
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My Best Friend Died Today

She died of alcoholic cirrhosis. She turned 40 in the hospital, one week before the doctors told her there was nothing more they could do for her. She was released into hospice care, and died 6 days later, in her parents home, surrounded by people who loved her dearly.

Today has been a day of sorrow and reflection, but also a time to appreciate life. Yes, she was an alcoholic. Yes, it killed her in the end. But she was also a daughter, sister, mother, friend. Before the disease took hold, she was fun, energetic, successful, and fiercely independent. I am so grateful that I got the chance to tell her that I loved her, one last time. Her influence in my life over the last 25 years has shaped the person I am today.

When I first came here to SR, I didn't have a clue just how powerful and dangerous this disease is. I thought it was easy - just quit drinking - and go on with your life. Today I understand.

Rest in peace now, my friend. And my prayers to all of you out there tonight, fighting the battle of your life. May you learn a lesson from this - and not take your days for granted.
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Old 10-21-2012, 08:02 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss, and also grateful for your sentiments. Wishing you strength, even though it sounds like you have it in spades.
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I am so sorry, tuffgirl. I'm glad too that you got to tell her how you feel. I have a situation in my own life, not alcohol related, but someone I used to be very close to is dying and I'm trying to decide whether to visit him or remember him as he was. I think maybe you just made up my mind for me. Prayers going out to you, your friend and her family.
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So sorry for your loss, prayers for you and all who loved her. Alcoholism is not only a disease of the mind, but the body as well. I am certain your friend loved you even more simply by being there for her. She is at peace now, and was blessed that she was surrounded by loved ones when she passed. God bless her, RIP.
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I'm so sorry for you loss TG but I hope she's at peace now.

Prayers for you and everyone who knew and loved this woman.

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I am so sorry, TG, and will say a prayer for your friend and all who loved her.
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I am so sorry, tuffgirl.
Wishing you peace at this very sad time.
((((((big hugs))))))))
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I'm so very sorry, TG. What a horrible and senseless loss. Prayers for you and for her family.

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so sorry for your loss.

Thinking of you.
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I am glad you had some time with her. She will live on in your memories.
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Nothing I know what to say. All peace
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So deeply sorry TG. Prayers are with you tonight.

Know you are cared for....
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(((Sheila)) - I'm so sorry, but very glad you got to spend time with her and let her know how much you loved for her. Prayers going out to all of you who loved.

Love, hugs, and prayers,

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My condolences, tuffgirl. I've been praying a lot lately for those in the throes of addiction, who can't seem to find their way back toward the light. I will add you and her family to my prayer journal tonight.
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I am so sorry for your loss. Am happy that you had a chance to spend some time with your friend and that you are remembering the good times.
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I so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. Hugs to you.
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Thank you for sharing that. I've lost friends to it, too, and it hurts -- big time. I echo everyone else that it was special for you to be there with her, and you'll be in my thoughts.
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Sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace. Love and Respect. Logo
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So heartbreaking. Oh my God, 40 years old. Damn this insidious disease. It takes some of the best, and brightest! Those that we love. So sorry. Beyond -
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A poem for your friend........As she is hurled into outer space may the angels help to lead the way and all the prayers that her family made shine upon her soul and keep her safe and all her friends that have passed away are there to greet her as she pass the gates and as she heads into the tunnels light I hope it leads to eternal life. Words by 2Pac. Love and Respect. Logo.
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