Titanic

Justplainsad, boy that must hurt and I'm just so very sad for you.

I wish that those suffering A families out there who haven't been touched by SR, AA/NA, Al-Anon or another great recovery program soon were.

I wish there was an arm or a leg I could give and thereby insure kids wouldn't get the disease and the cycle be broken.

I wish As could drink like non-As, or not at all.

I wish our spirits weren't so often startled back to the harsh reality of living with the toxic effects of spirits.

Anon12

I wish our relationship was enough for him to want to stop
I wish he'd wanted to stop drinking for him (realise this contradicts the first one)
I wish stopping drinking was easier
I wish alcohol wasn't so prevalent in our society that drinking is the norm
I wish he would face up to life's responsibilities in a mature way
I wish he didn't have an addictive personality
I wish I hadn't tried to fix his problems for him
I wish I'd seen the writing on the wall earlier
I wish I could move on and let him go

caligirl71

I wish he would be serious about never drinking again.
I wish he loved me more than beer.
I wish he could see what he was doing to his boys.
I wish I could let go and not look back..

Confetti

Yes, I think so too....and right now I can't afford to be down about this either...mine is the kick you while you're down type of STBXAH! I don't want to look back....but.....

I wish....that he would get caught....at his dealers house, driving while drunk, or showing up drunk at work.
I wish....that my children will not have to know him as this man he has become.
I wish...I would win the lottery and never have to give a second thought as to whether he'll pay child support or not!
I wish....more joy for everyone here at SR!

lizloh

I wish I would've seen this coming.

I wish I knew that in the end, this will make me a stronger better person, who I WISH will see this coming from now on. I seem to be blinded not just by love (it happens at LIKE) but blinded by the possibility of love. Maybe it's a form of intoxication.
It sure feels like it.

I wish my STBXAH didn't still get to me, I wish that the rest of his life is hell

I wish that I could be more independent and not so 'dreamy' and, frankly, dumb about love.

Edit:
I also WISH I never did any of the wishing that he WOULD stop, or love me more than the beer.

I WISH I had found SR sooner, so I could've stopped wishing sooner, started taking his actions at face value like a normie!!

BodkinVanHorn

I wish that when I saw the signs I had realized EXACTLY what was coming.
I wish that after the first godawful addict relationship I had pursued counselling instead of balking b/c they wanted to give me drugs.
I wish my first exA hadn't killed himself.
I wish he was still here. Not with me, he was an a## but I wish he could be alive and happy. I wish he could have envisioned an existence w/o heroin.
I wish that my 2nd A hadn't just died. He was my pal. Less a b/f more a friend. But now he's dead.
I wish that when the current exABF was waving the frigging drunk flags, I hadn't thought I was getting waved in for a landing. What the heck??? I wish my heart wasn't breaking while he's drunk. I wish his family wasn't so messed up.
I wish I could hate him but he's never even been deliberately MEAN to me. Just an A. But it's not ok. I wish I didn't feel so frigging guilty about wanting out, like I'm kicking a puppy. I wish he wouldn't be drunk and jerk-facey and crying. I wish I'd get myself to gether and make me proud of myself. I wish when I think about my daughter's future, I didn't think, God I hope she's not like me.

floralies

I wish that he had confidence in himself.

I wish that he saw what I see in him.

I wish that he stands up to this demon and meets it head on.

Milly39

I wish I had listened to My Mother
I wish I hadnt "wasted" so much of my life with him
I wished so many times when we were together that he would die in his sleep
I wished that he would crash the car on his way home from the pub
I wish that he finds something soon to help him " see the light "
I wish that he would actually want to spend time with his boys
I wish that my 2 boys don't turn out like him
I wish that my boys are not permanently affected by their Dad's alcoholism
I wish that there was such a thing a a magic wand