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Originally Posted by ichabod 
The bottom line, even if it hurts to hear it, is that you DID choose to stay with him. You didn't cause his behavior, but you chose to stay in the middle of it. He didn't make you. You didn't have to stay for the insults or the chaos. It's far easier to scream and yell about how horrible the alcoholic is than to admit that you didn't take charge of your own life and instead let him run it.
That's why Al Anon is so important. You didn't cause it, you can't control it, you can't cure it, but you can move forward from it and let the anger go.
That's why Al Anon is so important. You didn't cause it, you can't control it, you can't cure it, but you can move forward from it and let the anger go.
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Originally Posted by ichabod
This is where the anger you have is misplaced. The bottom line, even if it hurts to hear it, is that you DID choose to stay with him. You didn't cause his behavior, but you chose to stay in the middle of it. He didn't make you. You didn't have to stay for the insults or the chaos. It's far easier to scream and yell about how horrible the alcoholic is than to admit that you didn't take charge of your own life and instead let him run it.
That's why Al Anon is so important. You didn't cause it, you can't control it, you can't cure it, but you can move forward from it and let the anger go.
That's why Al Anon is so important. You didn't cause it, you can't control it, you can't cure it, but you can move forward from it and let the anger go.
You still sound like a drunk making excuses to me.
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Originally Posted by ichabod
This is where the anger you have is misplaced. The bottom line, even if it hurts to hear it, is that you DID choose to stay with him. You didn't cause his behavior, but you chose to stay in the middle of it. He didn't make you. You didn't have to stay for the insults or the chaos. It's far easier to scream and yell about how horrible the alcoholic is than to admit that you didn't take charge of your own life and instead let him run it.
That's why Al Anon is so important. You didn't cause it, you can't control it, you can't cure it, but you can move forward from it and let the anger go.
That's why Al Anon is so important. You didn't cause it, you can't control it, you can't cure it, but you can move forward from it and let the anger go.
I don't scream and yell sweetheart.
Don't put what you want to do on to me. If you need to scream and yell I suggest you go and do so.
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