In Jeopardy. What is the ?
 

Feel free to substitute "her" with your own alcoholic/addict:

I met her - or did I really "meet" her?

I shared with her - but was it only an echo I heard back?

I loved her - but who was "she" really?

I married her - but what could "marriage" ever have meant to her?

I lived with her - but exactly when did the butterfly I "saw" mutate into a caterpillar?*

I experienced life with her - but what was true and real, not fraud or a figment?

We had dreams, hopes and plans with her - but could they really be "with" her?

We fought for her and our family - but "what" really for?

We accepted - but what?


For the Daily Double, please reveal ...


* Thanks to Pelican and Trina Paulus!

Exactly what I've been wondering today.
Who WAS that???