He went to an AA meeting!

Old 08-28-2012, 05:15 AM
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He went to an AA meeting!

So AH went to an AA meeting last night...I am not holding my breath, but it took a lot of courage for him to do that for the first time...to admit that there is a problem and to take some steps to change! I'm hopeful that this is a good first step...and that hopefully we are capable of steering this ship in a new direction. I am going to counseling myself, but is there anything else I can do to be supportive? He is talking about "just having a few drinks on the weekends" but that makes me nervous...should I just keep my mouth shut and let him find his own path through AA?
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Old 08-28-2012, 05:28 AM
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Originally Posted by onceuponadream View Post
.should I just keep my mouth shut and let him find his own path through AA?
Yes.

This is His Addiction and therefore it needs to be His Recovery.

In my case, I found that if I tried to get involved in the solution ~ then I would be blamed during the failed attempts for not being supportive enough or not having the right plan of action.

If I stay out of it, the one with the problem can own the solutions.
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Old 08-28-2012, 05:31 AM
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Yes.

This is His Addiction and therefore it needs to be His Recovery.

In my case, I found that if I tried to get involved in the solution ~ then I would be blamed during the failed attempts for not being supportive enough or not having the right plan of action.

If I stay out of it, the one with the problem can own the solutions.
yes, I know this deep down inside...and I have a lot of work to do on my codependence...
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Old 08-28-2012, 05:33 AM
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If he continues to drink, he is not in recovery.

His life, his choices, work on you, get yourself healthy.
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Old 08-28-2012, 06:23 AM
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Are you just assuming he was being courageous? How can you know how he felt going there? It is only a meeting and if he saying he is going to continue to drink on weekends, then he is STILL DRINKING. Trying to control your drinking does not work. He will be back to the same level of drinking very shortly. Get working on yourself please.
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