To All Alcoholics
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To All Alcoholics
What we want.
We want the side of you that is strong, eyes clear, grounded, healthy, humorous, balanced, beautiful.
We know this side of you, we've seen it.
We love you.
We don't wish ill on you. We react, we scream, we try to control, we sabotage in our ways, we fight fight fight...for you, and our relationship with you.
We're hurt. We're in pain because it hurts to see you destroying yourself. We hurt because you neglect us, but it isn't as selfish as it may seem sometimes.
We're sad often...very often...watching you passed out. You look so beaten, so worn-down.
We want you to care for yourself. We want you to care about not losing the life, loves, jobs, and people that love you.
It's not always about us. Sometimes we simply cry just for you. We remember you at your best when you are ON...healthy in your own skin...we miss that, and we adore you when you shine, balanced, sober, and you just being you when you're healthy.
Sometimes on this forum, it may appear we only want to attack you, belittle you, lash out in our pain, or lift ourselves up above you.
But that's not what is underneath it all...underneath it all is our love for you...and yes, our pain.
We want the side of you that is strong, eyes clear, grounded, healthy, humorous, balanced, beautiful.
We know this side of you, we've seen it.
We love you.
We don't wish ill on you. We react, we scream, we try to control, we sabotage in our ways, we fight fight fight...for you, and our relationship with you.
We're hurt. We're in pain because it hurts to see you destroying yourself. We hurt because you neglect us, but it isn't as selfish as it may seem sometimes.
We're sad often...very often...watching you passed out. You look so beaten, so worn-down.
We want you to care for yourself. We want you to care about not losing the life, loves, jobs, and people that love you.
It's not always about us. Sometimes we simply cry just for you. We remember you at your best when you are ON...healthy in your own skin...we miss that, and we adore you when you shine, balanced, sober, and you just being you when you're healthy.
Sometimes on this forum, it may appear we only want to attack you, belittle you, lash out in our pain, or lift ourselves up above you.
But that's not what is underneath it all...underneath it all is our love for you...and yes, our pain.
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It's heartbreaking, isn't it?
One of my last messages to the axbf was "I just wanted something better for you than this"
But as we all know, it doesn't matter (to them) what we want.... it's all about feeding the addiction and only they can make the choice to stop hurting themselves.
One of my last messages to the axbf was "I just wanted something better for you than this"
But as we all know, it doesn't matter (to them) what we want.... it's all about feeding the addiction and only they can make the choice to stop hurting themselves.
I have watched that "light" disappear in several people that I cared about due to the disease of alcoholism & addiction ~
some are still in my life, some are not
either way -
I still wish for their hearts, souls and sanity - the light of life, love and recovery would shine in them again ~
thank you for sharing this!
PINK HUGS,
Rita
some are still in my life, some are not
either way -
I still wish for their hearts, souls and sanity - the light of life, love and recovery would shine in them again ~
thank you for sharing this!
PINK HUGS,
Rita
MadeofGlass
That is so thoughtful and thought provoking
Thank you taking the time to share that with us
And you know deep down even in my drinking days I knew the one I love just wanted to see all those things for me.
I am being sober for me but there is a piece of my sobriety that is there and created by the love from my husband and my gift to him is to give him back the woman he married
Once again thank you so much for sharing this - it was wonderful to read
That is so thoughtful and thought provoking
Thank you taking the time to share that with us
And you know deep down even in my drinking days I knew the one I love just wanted to see all those things for me.
I am being sober for me but there is a piece of my sobriety that is there and created by the love from my husband and my gift to him is to give him back the woman he married
Once again thank you so much for sharing this - it was wonderful to read
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