sparklingeyes

Have to go to court tomorrow for custody of daughter. I love my daughter with all my hear. She would drive me to an early grave with a smile on her face. I hope I never treated my parents that way. Usually, I ran myself ragged living up to everyone's expectations. I am at a loss for words, feelings, and thoughts. Just going to pray about it and keep asking to do God's will.

tjp613

Are you trying to regain custody of her?...or what is the hearing about? How old is she?

rdlesstraveled

praying for you!

gerryP

I'm praying for your daughter.

dollydo

You live with an abusive man,don't work, don't have a car and take rides from strange men, flash your boobs at them and you feel that your daughter is better off living with you rather than your parents?

Shaking my head in disbelief.

XXXXXXXXXX

I was wondering the same.

sparklingeyes

Thank you for your prayers and not judging me. I'm not perfect but I try. Having a teenager isn't easy, especially when she is extremely brilliant.

amy55

I would never judge you. Just trying to understand here. I know that you are looking for help, people to talk to, but you really don't give us enough to go on. Can you please give us a better picture.

marie1960

Now, I must have you confused with someone else,

I thought you were in your early 20's?

Regardless, being with an active alkie is not going to have a positive impression with the court/judge.

Hypatia

No, BF is mid 20s. Guess SparklingEyes is older?

I'm confused, too. But I wish SE well and hope it all turns out in the best interest of the teenager since that is what such a custody hearing should be about.

lillamy

Actually, in most states, a teenager's own wishes would be the most weighty aspect of a custody hearing. And having two teenagers of my own, I will say that no matter how much a parent wants to have custody of a child, I hope the court listens to your daughter. I've seen several instances of when a court goes against a teenager's wish, and I've never seen it end well.

transformyself

Yep. I think SE is having a blast here. So much doesn't add up.

XXXXXXXXXX

Anyone whO has ever lived with alcoholic can smell bs a mile away.

transformyself

Sparklingeyes- how are you getting to court?
Are your parents or the father of your daughter fighting with you over custody?
I'm confused. Do you want her to come and live with you and your bf?

What is the hearing about?

transformyself

So! How's Ms. Sparkingeyes doing today? Do you have an update for us? How did court go?

transformyself

bumping..

transformyself

I sure hope you're ok Sparkling eyes. I see you're here about every day, but no update on this thread?

How did court go? Are you ok??

Recover53

Wow!!! That's a great point!!!

sparklingeyes

I have to go to court again; however, I spoke with my daughter's attorney and told her that I want my daughter but what will make my daughter happy trumps what I want. Her father's death certificate was presented to me since I was in denial and shock about his suicide. It's still very difficult to swallow that he threw himself in front of a train. His addiction won. It destroyed him. There's some guilt left over because I left him when she was four years old
The same tape plays over and over..if only I had.....then he may have recovered from addiction. Thank you all for your care and concern.

BlueSkies1

Sparkling eyes,

I too had someone very close to me commit suicide, a man I was involved with, I'll leave it at that, no details necessary.
I would like to point out to you that there are grief forums for survivors of suicide and also that talking to a professional about this is important. Survivors of suicide are left with so many unanswered questions that can never be answered, along with the "what ifs" which I know very well that feeling.
Suicide acceptance is very hard, I know, been there. Do not cheat yourself out of working through that issue successfully, feel what you need to feel and get the help you need. It is one of the most difficult things to try to work through alone, and it is so much better to work it through with someone who understands.
As for your daughter, well at this point with the way she feels it may be better that you don't live with her. However the future will always be wide open for a close loving relationship with her, so keep your chin up that your relationship has the potential to be much improved should you work on doing that and making her a priority in your life.
Teenage girls can be very judgmental. But it is a phase and this too will pass should you do the necessary work to be close and loving. If you neglect to work through the issues between you she may alienate you forever.