Is my motive appropriate?
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Ha! Oh Lawd! What a play date it would be with all these toddlers in one room!
We keep braking the toy though! I want to stop breaking the toy and I know I have a part in both breaking it...and trying to fix it. I can't even get the fixing part right!
We keep braking the toy though! I want to stop breaking the toy and I know I have a part in both breaking it...and trying to fix it. I can't even get the fixing part right!
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Got it Anvil!
So, do I just give up ALL hope of any healthy future? Shut the barn door?
I don't want to keep the cycle going...but any hope of reconciliation would require some attempt at contact...
I hope I understood it right...
So, do I just give up ALL hope of any healthy future? Shut the barn door?
I don't want to keep the cycle going...but any hope of reconciliation would require some attempt at contact...
I hope I understood it right...
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OK! I think my brain is back on straight!
This is all just control...
I'm trying to get my way...
My "truce" is my trying to control how he responds towards me and this situation...
"What will be, will be."
Amen!
I am SO glad I came on here...BEFORE sending that email! Many thanks everyone...
This is all just control...
I'm trying to get my way...
My "truce" is my trying to control how he responds towards me and this situation...
"What will be, will be."
Amen!
I am SO glad I came on here...BEFORE sending that email! Many thanks everyone...
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M1k3....I understand. Thank you.
I know a relationship this early in recovery is NOT possible for either of us. That's not what I was after. But I WAS hoping that we could SLOWLY regain some sort of sane communication....until things imploded. That's what I'm upset about.
I know a relationship this early in recovery is NOT possible for either of us. That's not what I was after. But I WAS hoping that we could SLOWLY regain some sort of sane communication....until things imploded. That's what I'm upset about.
My horse left the barn before our 4.5 year relationship ever started. But I hung on like a champ and let that dysfunctional horse drag me through every chaos and crises infested gutter that I never knew existed.
For now, I'm excited to focus on me and MY interests for a change. In the future, I hope to have built a strong enough me to stick to my goals; develop the discernment to know exactly what and who will complement me; and the strength to walk away when it's clear that a relationship (or anything else) doesn't work. I'm almost 52 years old. I'd be a fool to spend any more of my remaining years pining for something I want that might (or might not) happen at some point in the indeterminate future.
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