What does it mean when someone calls someone a snake?
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your friend was trying to get you see the
truth, that he is lying to you, using you,
and playing you.
you love him so much that you refuse
to think of the truth. your in denial.
We have all been where you are at. having
to face the truth that the one we love
doesn't love us, but just using us. that
the dream we want to come true, more
then anything in the world will never
come true.
there are steps to the grief peocess.
1. denial
2. anger
3. willing to make a deal to save things
4. acceptence
those are mine. you might have
your own. with my snake i am moving
from step 3 to 4.
yes, it hurts, but by letting go i am
opening myself up to new people
and adventures. people who will
be worthy of my unconditional love,
loyality, and forgiving nature.
good luck.
Chrisy
truth, that he is lying to you, using you,
and playing you.
you love him so much that you refuse
to think of the truth. your in denial.
We have all been where you are at. having
to face the truth that the one we love
doesn't love us, but just using us. that
the dream we want to come true, more
then anything in the world will never
come true.
there are steps to the grief peocess.
1. denial
2. anger
3. willing to make a deal to save things
4. acceptence
those are mine. you might have
your own. with my snake i am moving
from step 3 to 4.
yes, it hurts, but by letting go i am
opening myself up to new people
and adventures. people who will
be worthy of my unconditional love,
loyality, and forgiving nature.
good luck.
Chrisy
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Sometimes we tell ourselves that things aren't that bad....just to keep a relationship together. We accept the unacceptable because it hurts to think that the person we love really is not capable of loving us. So, denial....the "deal" we make with ourselves so that we don't have to face the ugly truth that what we want soooo badly to be real love--really isn't.
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Originally Posted by sparklingeyes 
Willing to make a deal to save things? What does that mean? I want to rip my heart out.
I hope that you are safe and I'm sorry that you are hurting.
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each person has their own steps.
for me willing to do anything to make a
deal is, doing whatever is required to stay
with that person.
we stop being our own person. we think
if i give him everything he wants he
will love me and will stay with me.
i have a broken wrist and having surgery
today so am typing with one hand.
one thing i am good at, as an addict
is lying to myself. denial is a big one
for me. that denial is keeping me
from moving into the acceptence and letting
go of my snake.
Each person is different so my steps might
not work for you. We all don't move through
them at the same time either.
good luck
for me willing to do anything to make a
deal is, doing whatever is required to stay
with that person.
we stop being our own person. we think
if i give him everything he wants he
will love me and will stay with me.
i have a broken wrist and having surgery
today so am typing with one hand.
one thing i am good at, as an addict
is lying to myself. denial is a big one
for me. that denial is keeping me
from moving into the acceptence and letting
go of my snake.
Each person is different so my steps might
not work for you. We all don't move through
them at the same time either.
good luck
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