Ended it, Part 5: Closure

Old 07-03-2012, 09:24 PM
  # 1 (permalink)  
Thread Starter
Join Date: Oct 2011
Posts: 386
Ended it, Part 5: Closure

Short recap: Broke up with XABF last week after he was a mean, drunken jerk (day before my birthday I might add). He texted an apology Friday, no contact since. It's over.

Had a long talk with my preacher friend today. Had some spirituality questions about forgiveness, etc. He helped me come up with a way to accept XABF's apology/get closure for myself, and I had to return his key anyway. Here is what I'm sending:


I wanted to tell you I got your messages Friday. I was moving and didnít know how to respond. I guess I still donít. Your words and behavior Wednesday and Thursday (not to mention the timing ó before my birthday) really confused and hurt me.

That being said, I do appreciate your apology, and I wholeheartedly accept it.

Iím sorry for my own mistakes. Iím so sad that things didnít work between us, as I very much valued our love and friendship. I will always be grateful to you and your family for your kindness and generosity. As we close this chapter, I sincerely wish you all the best with your next.


I feel better owning my feelings, my faults and my own closure.

Thanks for listening!
jessiec is offline  
The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to jessiec For This Useful Post:
amy79 (07-04-2012), Chrissy44 (07-04-2012), Maybeoneday (07-08-2013), Tuffgirl (07-04-2012)
Old 07-03-2012, 10:20 PM
  # 2 (permalink)  
Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: Proud Upstate New Yorker
Posts: 869
Very nice.

Just wanted to show support. I think you ate doing beautifully with your recovery from this relationship and break up.

Love and Light,

DefofLov is offline  
The Following User Says Thank You to DefofLov For This Useful Post:
jessiec (07-03-2012)
Old 07-03-2012, 10:56 PM
  # 3 (permalink)  
Thread Starter
Join Date: Oct 2011
Posts: 386
Appreciate you, Lily!
jessiec is offline  
The Following User Says Thank You to jessiec For This Useful Post:
DefofLov (07-04-2012)
Old 07-04-2012, 10:14 AM
  # 4 (permalink)  
Tuffgirl's Avatar
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Anchorage, Alaska
Posts: 4,719
Blog Entries: 4
Well said! I hope it helps you move on from this experience. I love the way you are being so proactive about it all.

Tuffgirl is offline  

Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 06:34 AM.