Boundaries
Yes, Bluebonnet, I know what you mean. AXBF has stated he wants to be "friends." Seriously?? You live in my house for 2 and a half years and then all of a sudden just don't come home one night and then the next day tell me you are moving out? And you want to be friends? Why would anyone want to have a friend who DOES things like that??? I know that 16years ago, though, I WOULD HAVE FALLEN FOR IT! I would have been as hurt as I am now, and I would be hanging on to any little shred of evidence that he still loved me. And I would be dragged through HELL again. Been there, done that, bought the T-shirt. NOT GOING BACK THERE AGAIN. At least this time I have SOME boundaries that I know how to put into place to keep myself half sane.
To thine own self be true.
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Join Date: May 2009
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it dawned on me-he still wanted me around as a "friend" to enable and justify his behaviour.
Thanks for letting me share.
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My xah has been begging me for over 5 months to see him but I refuse knowing I couldn't handle how he looks seeing he's in the last stages of alcoholism. He tells me "just see me and I'll show you the husband you always wanted", ugh. I will only talk to him on the phone. So I keep my boundaries of not seeing him to help me to remember him the way he was a long time ago which may not be good for him but it is good for me.
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