Got Served YESTERDAY that I have court TODAY
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Got Served YESTERDAY that I have court TODAY
AXH just casually mentioned that we might have a court thing today but, ya know, I didn't really have to be there. Just an informality, really.
Yeah, right.
He is moving that CS equal only the dependent deductions he expects to receive from unemployment. Oh, and that we split the cost of medical and dental insurance, despite what he agreed to 5 years ago WITH AN ATTORNEY ON HIS SIDE. Oh, and by the way, can he get his portion of child care expenses per month capped at $300?
I got the notice of court at 9 am this morning at 3.30 PM yesterday in the mail. I have been up all night, going through old files and papers, doing research online, finding old emails and conversations, etc.
I was terrified because I had no way of printing out what I needed to prove my points in court. I thought, I thought...um, lightbulb! Go. Buy. A. Cheap. Printer. Talked to my neighbor across the way with her own AXH and she drove me to the store. Done and I love it. Spent most of the night printing and organizing.
I was desperate in that he knew that without a car, I couldn't go. So I called a new friend from work, begged and explained, and her boyfriend is gonna give me a ride there and back. She is gonna watch my kids at my place so I can go. So thats done.
The value of friends and actually asking for help has never been more apparent than it is right now.
So sick and distraught right now I really just wanna throw up. I don't have an attorney. I have almost no notice about this. But I'm gonna go in and give it my best shot to get what I want done.
Pray for me today. No matter how it turns out, I need to feel all of you standing beside me. And at least I can say I tried instead of just rolling over and playing dead like a good little codie.
I'm scared of authority figures and court makes me want to wee. Pray, pray, pray....
Yeah, right.
He is moving that CS equal only the dependent deductions he expects to receive from unemployment. Oh, and that we split the cost of medical and dental insurance, despite what he agreed to 5 years ago WITH AN ATTORNEY ON HIS SIDE. Oh, and by the way, can he get his portion of child care expenses per month capped at $300?
I got the notice of court at 9 am this morning at 3.30 PM yesterday in the mail. I have been up all night, going through old files and papers, doing research online, finding old emails and conversations, etc.
I was terrified because I had no way of printing out what I needed to prove my points in court. I thought, I thought...um, lightbulb! Go. Buy. A. Cheap. Printer. Talked to my neighbor across the way with her own AXH and she drove me to the store. Done and I love it. Spent most of the night printing and organizing.
I was desperate in that he knew that without a car, I couldn't go. So I called a new friend from work, begged and explained, and her boyfriend is gonna give me a ride there and back. She is gonna watch my kids at my place so I can go. So thats done.
The value of friends and actually asking for help has never been more apparent than it is right now.
So sick and distraught right now I really just wanna throw up. I don't have an attorney. I have almost no notice about this. But I'm gonna go in and give it my best shot to get what I want done.
Pray for me today. No matter how it turns out, I need to feel all of you standing beside me. And at least I can say I tried instead of just rolling over and playing dead like a good little codie.
I'm scared of authority figures and court makes me want to wee. Pray, pray, pray....
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What a dick. Instead of seeing it as his responsibility to support his kids as their father, he views it as something you're forcing him to do?!?!? I would expect he's going to have a come to jesus meeting today with the judge.
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I love how you handled it...proactively and efficiently. Way to go, PS!
And I am with Jazzman. What a you-know-what. Amazes me how the world seems full of them these days.
Good luck to you - keep us posted!
~T
And I am with Jazzman. What a you-know-what. Amazes me how the world seems full of them these days.
Good luck to you - keep us posted!
~T
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PS - You are going to do fine. My best advice would be to try to remain as calm as possible, let your ex have his say, wait patiently as this will show you are in control and not emotional and all over the place. I think that looks good in the court's view. 
SR family (me included) will be there will you in spirit. PLEASE let us know how it goes as I will be thinking of you.
SR family (me included) will be there will you in spirit. PLEASE let us know how it goes as I will be thinking of you.
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Wow, PurpleSquirrel, that was amazing!
You are amazing!
You dealt with this like Wonder Woman.
Now, go act calmly, because you got it covered.
Silly man. Thought you would just turn around and roll over.
I would love to see his face!
Oh yeah, I am there with you.
:ghug3
You are amazing!
You dealt with this like Wonder Woman.
Now, go act calmly, because you got it covered.
Silly man. Thought you would just turn around and roll over.
I would love to see his face!
Oh yeah, I am there with you.
:ghug3
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