fedup3

It's not my job to make him happy while foregoing my own happiness!

Sungrl

It's not my job to.....

File his unemployment online every Sunday

Dump out the tequila he promised he would never drink again

Want to call him evey night to make sure he is eating

Spend all night rubbing his legs when his restless leg syndrome hits because he is dehydrated

ITS NOT MY JOB TO WORRY ENDLESSLY ABOUT HIM ANYMORE, I QUIT

EnglishGarden

This is a great thread! Thanks, Griz.

It's not my job to dumb down to make a man feel smarter.

cricket123

It's not my job to be his personal assistant.

SoaringSpirits

It's not my job to be his whipping boy.

ConeyIslandHigh

It's not my job to rescue him from himself.

JenT1968

or diary secretary, or reminder service, or logistics planner, or project manager, or postal service, or negotiator, or family liaison, or spin doctor, or doctor, or lawyer.....

all of which I've attempted

lillamy

It's not my job to convince other people to see it from my point of view.

It's not my job to convince other people that my choices are valid.

It's not my job to defend my choices to anyone.

It's not my job to make weak little suit-and-tie-clad boys in the workplace feel better about themselves by pandering to their egos either. (A little off topic but heart-felt

Tuffgirl

Don't forget keeper of all things that get lost easily (wallet, sunglasses, keys, etc.)

WorkInProgress8

Its not my job to give a damn about him period!

ConeyIslandHigh

It's not my job to figure out how to get all his crap to his elderly parent's house 2,000 miles away before the lease is up.

grizz

Thanks for all your replies, it is a nice reminder that we are not in this alone.

It is not my job to wake up the AW after her second bottle of after dinner wine.

Learn2Live

It's not my job to parent his children just because neither one of their parents actually does.

fourmaggie

you beat me to it...

but add I CANT make anyone happy..not my job

what a good thread

Ilovemysonjj

Its not my job to referee disagreements between my teenagers and their father to try and smooth the waters.

Windmills

It's not my job to clean food off the walls after he aims a plate of spaghetti at my head. Wtf was I thinking?

It's not my job to try to force a relationship between his family and my daughter. Their loss.

It's not my job to live in fear every morning, noon and night.

It's not my job to try to smooth over the 'issues' he causes with basically everyone he comes into contact with.

It's certainly not my job to take the blame for his actions, despite what my family like to tell me!

CeciliaV

It's not my job to be his mom.

CariBegins

It is not your job and I am finding this out for myself as we speak. I am 48 years old and married to an AH. I found the need to join this site because I kept reading the story of mine in all the posts living with an AH. I have been becoming aware of this disease for a couple years, it has just got worse as it always does.

This is my first time to write anything, but I am amazed of what I carried away with me after reading so many posts. I had already found a new place to live and put a deposit down for moving in 2 weeks, but this site helped me so much by educating myself more. My story is the same, and it truly breaks my heart of the pain, frustration and loss we go through.

I am so happy to be here..thank you a million for giving me strength to see what is ahead of me. I have a big day coming ahead and hoping it is an easy move. It is a sad relief at first, but I will to continue to keep being quite so that I can hear.

KidsR#1

It's not my job to report to his parents if he is drinking again. (Like I was told in therapy- if they want to know they should ASK HIM!)

Combakkid

It's not my job to take the blame for everything nor is it to anticipate every little thing he may need. It has taken me so long to realize that. Walking on eggshells all the time is not normal. Who knew!?!