Feeling very vindictive OK, I know it's wrong but I have these twisted thoughts of retaliation and vindictiveness. My AH is done with his house arrest and has booked a work trip to CA and has rented a car with National. I keep thinking(yes, it's wrong) that I should call up the rental car company and tell them to run all renters who come in on Tuesday from AZ! Yet, I know that I need to leave it all in my Higher Power's hands but it drives me crazy that he'll be out there driving on his work permit(still on a soft suspension until the end of July). Throw in the fact that he's supposed to have an ignition interlock device, too, and he's risking so much even if they do rent him the car. It's unfortunate that they don't run licenses at the rental counters. Anyway, it's just my fantasy today. Still going to FL in 2 weeks, YAY! |
I feel your anger. I want to call and let them know to run licenses! Can you vent away, maybe get pen and paper and be all evil there? Then try to pray and meditate and well, wow. I still want to call! Okay, really leave it up to your higher power and maybe, just maybe, they will run his license anyway??? I feel your pain and anger here. I'd leave it up to that higher power. I dunno. Hugs & love to you, |
Oh yes, I have been there, just about two days ago, I was very angry, which someone very wise told me that , it's better than being in fetal position, just needs to be directed in a healthy way. It's so painful, isn't it??? xo |
In our state, when someone requires an interlock, their licenses are stamped with a big red R for restricted. No way they could rent with that. |
Originally Posted by angrywife
(Post 3447284)
In our state, when someone requires an interlock, their licenses are stamped with a big red R for restricted. No way they could rent with that. |
Originally Posted by anvilhead
(Post 3447414)
liz...how would you complete this statement....when HE makes plans to rent a car on a restricted license....I FEEL................................ |
Yeah, it's not right! It's just that sense of entitlement. It would make me p'd off too! |
Wow! This guy is a real trip, he has no regard for the law, I guess his ego tells him that he is above the law. He will fall, I hope he doesn't take you down with him. |
Originally Posted by dollydo
(Post 3447490)
Wow! This guy is a real trip, he has no regard for the law, I guess his ego tells him that he is above the law. He will fall, I hope he doesn't take you down with him. I'm honestly surprised that he's never had any altercations with the law all his life. And, his dad was a Baltimore city police officer for 25 years. Did I ever tell you guys about his altercation with a bounty hunter back in November? Oh geez, he gets really ticked when people double park in front of grocery stores and stuff. I guess he got aggressive behind the wheel and shared a few words with a guy who was double parked. My AH went into the store and the guy in the lot took down AH's plate number and illegally used his bounty hunter system to find out where we lived and he left his calling card on our front porch that night. I woke up at 6 AM to find 2 police officers in my kitchen where my AH was giving a statement about what happened. I had nightmares for weeks that this guy was going to come back and retaliate. |
Originally Posted by anvilhead
(Post 3447438)
it's deeper than that....but pissed off is perfectly ok! |
Originally Posted by anvilhead
(Post 3447529)
there is just flat out something "missing" from this guy's makeup....lack of empathy, inability to connect action with consequence. very creepy. when's florida??? |
Originally Posted by lizatola
(Post 3447169)
I have these twisted thoughts of retaliation and vindictiveness. The guest speaker was sharing his story and he inserted this jewel of wisdom from his first sponsor: "If you feel the need to get revenge for a wrong ~ try getting even with someone that paid you a kindness instead" I sat in my chair and thought: Wow! That would certainly put an end to some of my *red-faced, steam shooting out of ears, fist waving* episodes. |
He seems to enjoy violating the law. He is taking a risk. But depending on the state it probably wouldn't show up in the system. |
Originally Posted by Pelican
(Post 3447749)
I went to an open AA meeting tonight. (felt the need to be in a room of people that understood being powerless over alcohol) The guest speaker was sharing his story and he inserted this jewel of wisdom from his first sponsor: "If you feel the need to get revenge for a wrong ~ try getting even with someone that paid you a kindness instead" I sat in my chair and thought: Wow! That would certainly put an end to some of my *red-faced, steam shooting out of ears, fist waving* episodes. |
I don't know if vindictive is the word to describe how I feel today. I think I'm just feeling really mean. Like last night I dreamed about busting my non-program working RAH's kneecaps with a bat and/or smothering him with a pillow. Obviously I'm spending my day reading CAL and SR posts. |
Originally Posted by DestinyM
(Post 3448918)
I don't know if vindictive is the word to describe how I feel today. I think I'm just feeling really mean. Like last night I dreamed about busting my non-program working RAH's kneecaps with a bat and/or smothering him with a pillow. Obviously I'm spending my day reading CAL and SR posts. |
Nice to know I'm not alone. I still am not doing much better today. I have been reading, going to Al Anon meetings, I found a sponsor, and I'm trying to read and keep busy but I still can't shake the fact that I need to call the rental car company and turn him in! It's turned into a freaking obsession. Maybe I need a nap, LOL? |
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