"Abuse" Table/Chart
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"Abuse" Table/Chart
Hey everyone,
I was reading through links of links from this site this past weekend, and came across a table that described abusers' thoughts and emotions, their subsequent behavior, and how the victim is affected by that behavior. Something like this:
Abuser Feels... Abuser Behavior Victim Feels
Fear Anger, Rage Fear
Has anyone else seen this table or a table like it, and if so can they provide the link? I have searched my internet history and have not found it (grr!) and even my phone history. Thanks!
I was reading through links of links from this site this past weekend, and came across a table that described abusers' thoughts and emotions, their subsequent behavior, and how the victim is affected by that behavior. Something like this:
Abuser Feels... Abuser Behavior Victim Feels
Fear Anger, Rage Fear
Has anyone else seen this table or a table like it, and if so can they provide the link? I have searched my internet history and have not found it (grr!) and even my phone history. Thanks!
Abuse
Is this what you wanted?
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...oint-view.html
There are more links on abuse under this sticky post at the top:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...out-abuse.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...oint-view.html
There are more links on abuse under this sticky post at the top:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...out-abuse.html
I've also found this helpful...
The Cycle of Abuse | Domestic Violence Wheel | Emotionally Battered Women
The Cycle of Abuse | Domestic Violence Wheel | Emotionally Battered Women
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Join Date: Feb 2012
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In the past couple of weeks I have been researching abusive relationships, and this is what I learned.
I think that a lot of relationships have some, or even a lot, of symptoms of abuse, on both sides (I know mine does, at least). Which is fine, as long as you can step back and see where you are going. Fix it before it's too late. Change it before it turns into some kind of thing where one or both of you are getting arrested, or one of you kills the other, etc. I think when it gets to the point where it is out of control and you wonder how the hell you got here, it's too late.
There is always a warning sign, but sometimes we don't want to see it. I didn't. But I learned, and I made a couple more boundaries, and that's it. That's all that can be done.
I think that a lot of relationships have some, or even a lot, of symptoms of abuse, on both sides (I know mine does, at least). Which is fine, as long as you can step back and see where you are going. Fix it before it's too late. Change it before it turns into some kind of thing where one or both of you are getting arrested, or one of you kills the other, etc. I think when it gets to the point where it is out of control and you wonder how the hell you got here, it's too late.
There is always a warning sign, but sometimes we don't want to see it. I didn't. But I learned, and I made a couple more boundaries, and that's it. That's all that can be done.
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