text war
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text war
How can I be doing so good and being healthy and then let him get me wrapped up into a text war? We are almost at the end of divorce. I know he is going to try every last thing from being nice, to mean, to sweet, to a bully. I am falling into the trap because it is an emotional time.
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Brownhorse, I had to change my number just for that reason. It was too easy to communicate with him and start the back and forth that he's so accustomed to. I don't want him to have my number so therefore I don't text him or call him. We are going through a divorce as well and it is a very emotional time and I am strong but I am also weak against him so the less contact the better. We have a son together and if he calls the house, I let me son answer the phone and talk to him and when he is done I simply hang it up. If he continues to call back, I unplug the house phone. There is nothing we need to discuss, he can take it up with his lawyer, my lawyer, or whoever but done is done and that's simply the way it is.
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brownhorse,
Don't let a drunk get you into a circular conversation.
You will remember what was said, and it will hurt you.
He can easily forget, call you tomorrow, and apologize,
or call tomorrow and say "blah, blah, blah, blah" which is just about as helpful.
You can do it brownhorse, put down the phone.
He is wasting your precious time, and the results will be nil.
Beth
A pox on cellphones. Pfffft.
Don't let a drunk get you into a circular conversation.
You will remember what was said, and it will hurt you.
He can easily forget, call you tomorrow, and apologize,
or call tomorrow and say "blah, blah, blah, blah" which is just about as helpful.
You can do it brownhorse, put down the phone.
He is wasting your precious time, and the results will be nil.
Beth
A pox on cellphones. Pfffft.
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Sorry for all the emotional turmoil. Look how far you have come, you will get thru this too. Keep talking we are right here listening. Hugs))))
Put some music on, sing along, do whatever it takes to keep from getting sucked in to his BS.
Put some music on, sing along, do whatever it takes to keep from getting sucked in to his BS.
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Wow! I feel the love and support. This website is wonderful. Yes Chou, I have a lawyer. In fact that is what started all this. I am meeting him in 40 minutes and thought my stbxra could have a reasonable conversation about what he wants me to put that he gets from the house....
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Originally Posted by anvilhead 
the stop it! i don't mean to sound glib, but seriously, just. stop. put down the stupid phone. in fact, TURN IT OFF. breathe, walk away, go see if any daffodils are blooming in your yard, or wash the car, or organize the garage.
Try it. It does work!
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You are not having a text war with your ex, you are having a text war with his last drink, or his next drink, or the drink he is having right now.
Alcohol takes hostages and it continues to try and get old hostages to return.
You don't deserve it, you have given enough of yourself to the disease.
Go live you life and find happiness, it's time.
take good care K
Alcohol takes hostages and it continues to try and get old hostages to return.
You don't deserve it, you have given enough of yourself to the disease.
Go live you life and find happiness, it's time.
take good care K
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Thanks everybody. I did get through it and was sad. But, I have learned alot. Just wrote my final judgement with my attorney and feel alot of emotions but I know my kids are safe and I can relax. Thanks for all the support today. I really helped me through this and was amazing!
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