I had a few "friends" asking about my ex when we seperated.
I had a canned answer: "I don't know how he is doing. Ask him yourself"
It's been three years since we seperated/divorced. I still can not answer other peoples questions about his lifestyle.
I recommend not taking the calls from these friends. I also would not reply to the text messages.
You own the phone. You decide who you will speak with and when.
Remember the three C's:
I did not Cause it
I cannot Control it
I will not Cure it
also, the Serenity Prayer helps calm me
Grant me the Serenity to accept the things I can not change (other people)
The Courage to change the things I can (me, myself and I)
and the Wisdom to know the difference.
"How does one become a butterfly?" she asked pensively.
"You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar."
Hope for the Flowers