If you expect nothing, you can never be disappointed.
If you expect nothing, you can never be disappointed.
“If you expect nothing, you can never be disappointed.
Apart from a few starry-eyed poets or monks living on a mountaintop somewhere, however, we all have expectations. We not only have them, we need them. They fuel our dreams, our hopes, and our lives like some super-caffeinated energy drink.” Tonya Hurley
So, must we learn to think like a poet or a monk if we choose to live with an active alcoholic?
Something to think about.
Apart from a few starry-eyed poets or monks living on a mountaintop somewhere, however, we all have expectations. We not only have them, we need them. They fuel our dreams, our hopes, and our lives like some super-caffeinated energy drink.” Tonya Hurley
So, must we learn to think like a poet or a monk if we choose to live with an active alcoholic?
Something to think about.
I don't know. Living with an active alcoholic is no longer an option.
I've been there 3 times, with the now deceased EXAH, twice with the AD. Never again.
I cherish the absence of active alcoholism's insanity.
I cherish the peacefulness.
I cherish my safe place that I call home.
I've been there 3 times, with the now deceased EXAH, twice with the AD. Never again.
I cherish the absence of active alcoholism's insanity.
I cherish the peacefulness.
I cherish my safe place that I call home.
I think it's also about knowing that we have a right to expect certain things more than it is about giving up our expectations.
I have a right to expect respectful treatment from a person I'm sharing my life with.
If he doesn't live up to that, it's not my expectation that's the problem; it's his behavior.
My expectation only becomes a problem if he treats me with no respect for years and I let him, and I still expect him to change.
I have a right to expect respectful treatment from a person I'm sharing my life with.
If he doesn't live up to that, it's not my expectation that's the problem; it's his behavior.
My expectation only becomes a problem if he treats me with no respect for years and I let him, and I still expect him to change.
YES lillamy and anvil - well said!
I struggled with the "no expectations' theory because I believe its expectations that allow us to set boundaries for ourselves. How can we not have them?
But there's a line - and its that our expectations are ours. As lillamy says - our personal expectations become a problem when we expect someone else to change to suit them. Or an even better word for "expect"...demand.
I struggled with the "no expectations' theory because I believe its expectations that allow us to set boundaries for ourselves. How can we not have them?
But there's a line - and its that our expectations are ours. As lillamy says - our personal expectations become a problem when we expect someone else to change to suit them. Or an even better word for "expect"...demand.
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