OhBoy

Finally went to my first alanon meeting last night. I was very nervous & anxious but I knew that it could only better than how I have been feeling. I've been lurking & posting for quite a few months & have picked up A LOT of useful information but being face to face with people who have/are going through what I am going through, for me, gets through to me in a more meaningful & useful way. I guess I'm posting this so hopefully if there is another "me" out there, it won't take them as long as it did me. After all the anxiety & denial of my situation it was a huge relief to finally accept it for what it is & hopefully REALLY start my recovery.

Before I went, I thought I could pick up some tools & "deal with it". What it did is made me realize there is a whole toolbox full of tools I don't know how to use. At the meeting I realized I can learn how to use them from people who know how! I suppose in time I could have figured it out, but I beat my head against the wall enough. Thank you to all who have encouraged me to try a meeting, I am grateful.
Oh Boy

Tuffgirl

Thanks for sharing this...it will be helpful to others out there thinking about trying a meeting!

Keep going back...and coming back here. It's an amazing feeling knowing we are not alone after all.

Cyranoak

Thank you for this very valuable post!

GoatGirl

Me too! And after being a lurker here for a while, your post encouraged me to post as well. I also felt nervous but was welcomed and within minutes felt a little bit of peace seeping back into my mind. I'm pondering going to another one tonight if I can work out the public transport route to it.