I can only do one momet at a time.....
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I'm sorry for your pain. I'm happy that you did the right thing for you and for your future, as hard as it was. That took a lot of courage. I had warning bells with my first/only marriage (to a non-A), but pushed them down and went through with it anyway.
I understand loving someone with an alcohol problem (I have an ABF), and it's been quite the ride.
Wishing you peace and comfort.
I understand loving someone with an alcohol problem (I have an ABF), and it's been quite the ride.
Wishing you peace and comfort.
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I have to say thank GOD for this site and to all of you!! Last night was rough to say the least! Having this place to vent with people who understand is a blessing!! Thank you!
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So CONFUSED...
There are things the Ex A fiance and I need to talk about, and I just WONT, while he has been drinking. I have not spoken to him or responded to any of his emails, or text messages because I dont want to play that game. I dont know if I should just write a letter and send it or what???? I know from outside sources that I am the bad guy in all of this and he is playing the victim role, I know he knows why I broke off our engagement, the day I broke it off, I wasn't mean or angry about it, I told him that I love deeply, I still LOVE HIM! At this point I'm not sure, how to go about doing this.
I saw an article on how to write a letter to an alcoholic Friend/loved one, thought about using that format, I just dont know if even talking on the phone at this point even if he is sober is even worth my peace of mind....I JUST DONT KNOW......he lives in another state so thing I need to return have to be sent. I'm just so confused.
I saw an article on how to write a letter to an alcoholic Friend/loved one, thought about using that format, I just dont know if even talking on the phone at this point even if he is sober is even worth my peace of mind....I JUST DONT KNOW......he lives in another state so thing I need to return have to be sent. I'm just so confused.
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I'm really very sorry for your pain. Doing the right thing is often very, very hard and very, very painful.
He can say the sky is purple to anyone who wants to listen, but that does not make it the truth. The truth does not change simply because he denies it.
Contacting him in any other way than in writing might put you through unnecessary torment. What do you "need" to talk to him about? Are there still some of his things at your place? Are there still financial dealings that need to be finalized? IMHO, all of his things can be shipped back to him, and any financial dealings can be handled in writing.
Please take it easy on yourself through this time. It will get better, I know.
Hugs, HG
He can say the sky is purple to anyone who wants to listen, but that does not make it the truth. The truth does not change simply because he denies it.
Contacting him in any other way than in writing might put you through unnecessary torment. What do you "need" to talk to him about? Are there still some of his things at your place? Are there still financial dealings that need to be finalized? IMHO, all of his things can be shipped back to him, and any financial dealings can be handled in writing.
Please take it easy on yourself through this time. It will get better, I know.
Hugs, HG
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