new here trying to help my wife
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Grunter, she will probably spiral downward at some point, regardless of your actions. Take care of yourself and your family, and re-read what EnglishGarden wrote above.
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You don't have to find someone else to "take responsibility" for her before you leave her. They wouldn't have any more power to stop her than you have.
You said you have been to "a meeting". I suggest you get back to Al-Anon on a regular basis. It helped me clear my head enough to make the same difficult decision you have to make. My husband had gone back to drinking after almost dying of it. He had no family nearby, and it was the same kind of situation. I chose to leave rather than be dragged under by his disease. It was the right thing to do. He is still drinking and, amazingly, still alive almost fifteen years later. He knows where to find help. My staying would not have made a difference.
You said you have been to "a meeting". I suggest you get back to Al-Anon on a regular basis. It helped me clear my head enough to make the same difficult decision you have to make. My husband had gone back to drinking after almost dying of it. He had no family nearby, and it was the same kind of situation. I chose to leave rather than be dragged under by his disease. It was the right thing to do. He is still drinking and, amazingly, still alive almost fifteen years later. He knows where to find help. My staying would not have made a difference.
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