Milly39

So AH moved out 2 weeks ago and we've seen him a bit during that time.
Today he called over to collect some insurance stuff for his car and we were just talking about Christmas amongst other things. I got upset and started crying and he hugged me and it felt strange. When he was leaving he kissed me on the cheek.
Dunno how I feel now.
He knows that we both have to work on ourselves, seperately, I told him that.
He knows that I don't love him aymore....so Why do I feel like I have let my guard down because he kissed me goodbye....I am defintely not getting sucked in by the emotion...but it all feels weird : (

M.

Willybluedog

Sometimes when you break up and it is not a just horrible breakup but more of a drift apart, things like a kiss on the cheek or a hug can seem confusing, you crave closeness and contact but not with your old love, you may just want to place a boundary, maybe it's no touching, whatever you need to feel comfortable.

You are welcome to some cyber hugs if you need them,

Take care,

Bill

Milly39

Thanks Bill - sound advice there

NTurn

Remember it's only been 2 weeks..give yourself some time to heal. It could be that when he hugged you that you felt a little bit sad about where the relationship has ended up and that's ok and perfectly natural. You are not made of stone

Milly39

Nturn - you hit the nail on the head there - it does take time and I need to grieve for what was and what could have been, but wasn't.