Feelings and Boundaries
Member
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: PA
Posts: 985
(((starcat)))
So sorry for all the losses here. I know it has only been not quite a year that you broke it off with him... and I am sad for this kind of ending... but I am so glad that you did not have to go through this with him.
I also know that sometimes ppl go through many emotions at a time such as this and the lessons you learned during your recovery will help you sort them out appropriately.
Keep up your readings and meetings. Talk to your close friends. You have been doing fine and while this is new challenge you will get through this too.
(((hugs)))
So sorry for all the losses here. I know it has only been not quite a year that you broke it off with him... and I am sad for this kind of ending... but I am so glad that you did not have to go through this with him.
I also know that sometimes ppl go through many emotions at a time such as this and the lessons you learned during your recovery will help you sort them out appropriately.
Keep up your readings and meetings. Talk to your close friends. You have been doing fine and while this is new challenge you will get through this too.
(((hugs)))
Member
Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 13,497
(((StarCat)))
Having had two alcoholic parents who became sober for a few years, before dying young due to ruining their health, I understand . The pain of their ruined lives was huge, but the happiness I felt that they died sober is huge too. they had a short time of "real life" and I am grateful for that. I am glad that your xabf had that time too.
thinking of you StarCat, and sending hugs.
Having had two alcoholic parents who became sober for a few years, before dying young due to ruining their health, I understand . The pain of their ruined lives was huge, but the happiness I felt that they died sober is huge too. they had a short time of "real life" and I am grateful for that. I am glad that your xabf had that time too.
thinking of you StarCat, and sending hugs.
Member
Join Date: Feb 2010
Posts: 566
StarCat,
I'm so sorry...for the whole thing.
One of the things I see from your posts, however, is how far you have come in your recovery process! Wow. I'm so impressed with how you've set boundaries with XABF's family, as well as you did with him. I'm thinking about how, if we focus on our own paths, we give others a chance to focus on theirs.
What a gift that your XABF died sober. What a tremendous gift. Finally, perhaps, he had a chance to live at the end. And how strong and empowered you sound.
As sorry as I am, and despite how much I hate this disease, I hear success and triumph in your story. Thank you for sharing it.
Hugs, hugs...
posie
I'm so sorry...for the whole thing.
One of the things I see from your posts, however, is how far you have come in your recovery process! Wow. I'm so impressed with how you've set boundaries with XABF's family, as well as you did with him. I'm thinking about how, if we focus on our own paths, we give others a chance to focus on theirs.
What a gift that your XABF died sober. What a tremendous gift. Finally, perhaps, he had a chance to live at the end. And how strong and empowered you sound.
As sorry as I am, and despite how much I hate this disease, I hear success and triumph in your story. Thank you for sharing it.
Hugs, hugs...
posie
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
