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shawty80 10-02-2011 05:14 PM

weekends...
 
are hard for me. i had obligations friday and saturday night and have been grading papers all day long today, but i still have found myself in tears the entire weekend. i'm ready to NOT be heartbroken and to NOT want a relationship with xab. ugh. :cries3:

lillamy 10-02-2011 05:33 PM

Shawty, weekends are hard. They're hard when you're with an A and they're hard when you leave them. For a while. Right after I left, I kept super busy every weekend. Since I knew I wouldn't be able to sleep anyway, I planned workouts for 6 am and then jam-packed my schedule to the max. Of course, that's not good either because that just postpones the inevitable...

I don't know that I'm of much help but just wanted you to know that you're not alone. It's hard. It gets better. Promise.

Willybluedog 10-02-2011 08:38 PM

Shawty, so sorry you are hurting, you will be in my thoughts.

shawty80 10-05-2011 06:23 PM

thank you so much for your support. it means the world. :)

rayn, i suffered through the grading and felt quite accomplished once i finished it! :) of course, those papers are starting to stack up again, so i've gotta get my act together. i finally changed the calendar in my classroom yesterday. i'm ashamed to say it, but it still said august. just goes to show how sad and unmotivated i've been over the past month. :(

oh well, here's to surviving the first month after the break up!!!

mhealer3 10-05-2011 06:52 PM

you r doing a great job, my friend.
enjoy working, weekends can b drab without it.
my son lives with my ex-ah, & who's turned him against me.
so if i didn't work i'd have nobody glad 2 see me, sadly.
it amazes me how sad this life can be sometimes.
God's Love is best, but while we r in this body, we need 2 socialize somehow:)
i occasionally help out my neighbors, or at the church, 'cause it feels good:)
so get a plan that will help u be ready when a long weekend or holiday comes along...
even a 'call-list' has helped me greatly...from old friends to out-of-town family,
calling someone to say 'how r you?' really ends up helping me also.
try 2 do something you like @ least once a month (get a massage, haircolor, dine-out).
i also joined a knitting club, found a bingo-buddy, & helped clean-house 4 a sick friend.
4 me it's all about distracting myself, 2 keep me from feeling hurt
over the things that have happened.
bedtime can be hard, 'cause all the distractions get turned off, & it's just you.
for those times i highly recommend praying 2 God. He Loves us:)


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