rorty

Over coffee today I told my ex that I am moving to SF. She excused herself from the conversation shortly after and I came home. She has a lot of work to do on her recovery and I have to work on myself as well. She gave me a hug and looked away and it felt like the last goodbye. I just need another hug

suki44883

Everything is going to be okay. Look after yourself.

MTSlideAddict

Everyting will get better. Take care of you.

dollydo

You will be fine, give it a few days. I believe that you will be overwhelmed with relief. It's all out in the open.

NYCDoglvr

Very big steps. I'm so happy you are able to part ways without high drama...you're a power of example for me. Thank you.

MyGirlGracie

Sending hugs your way... you should give one to yourself as well... feel what you feel and tomorrow will be a new day!

skippernlilg

Cyber (((HUGS))).

tjp613

Growth is almost always painful. I'm sorry you're sad, but keep your eye on the prize, my friend.

Babyblue

Hi Rorty, I have been following your story and you seem like a very kind and sensitive soul. I admire your strength to do this and your ability to not let the 'crazy' get to you.

Stay strong!

Thlayli

Sounds like you're moving in a positive direction. Thanks for sharing what you are going through. Big hugs

rorty

Thanks Babyblue. I'm always happy when you comment on my posts. I have learned so much on this journey and I owe all of it to my Al-anon friends, my SR friends, and to those friends who I can talk to about these issues.

The truth that I have found is to follow my heart. The crazy gets to me but I push through it because I have a destiny in San Francisco. Having this plan has freed me from the confusion and frustration of our "relationship." It has also brought us closer, something I sense but cannot define. I do not feel attached nor immersed in her world, her choices, or an outcome. I feel as though I can love her and expect nothing. My future is now depends on me, my choices, and faith in myself. If I can tow this line then I will I keep her in my life and be as supportive as I can. But I will not compromise my needs or boundaries. This is all such a mixture of gray but it feels alright.


SF is going to be so good for me Thank you.

Tuffgirl

Congrats on moving forward. I feel your ambivalence...it is a grey area. But one that will become more clear as time heals all wounds.

Take good care,
~T

fedup3

rorty, take care of yourself and don't be a stranger here on SR.

Seren

Hi rorty,

Good luck with the coming move! Take care, and know that we do understand....

Hugs, HG