TheLadyb

This is so helpful.

I wish I could get rid of mine.
I hate the weekends cause he comes home drunk and fights with the family.
He had decided that my sons are men now and need to get out of the house, so he calls them names and fights with them.
He refuses to work around the house, unless forced and then I have to deal with the fact that he has done something for me.
He won't have sex with me
He calls me fat
He says I'm ugly
He flirst and girls the bartenders he hangs at
He changes my past, by saying that "I never saw you play basketball" even though I was a Varsity Basketball player
His entire family does not speak to him
He puts down my family
He disappears and is gone for hours
He drunk drives
He constantly says he wants a divorce when he is drunk
I am afraid to go to parties, weddings, get togethers
He ruins my vacations with my friends because he is smashed the entire time
he says I am no fun
He constantly points out "things" that need to be done around the house.

My life is misery.

cranapple

I will.... be able to sleep in the pitch black dark with only the sound of the fan
be able to save on the power bill because none of it will be used while I am working my butt off at work to pay for the open windows with the heat running
be able to watch my girly shows and movies
be able to save money on food and not worry about leftovers being eaten entirely overnight
be able to relax after a long day at work and not be tense worrying if he'll bug me to drive him down the street to "get some candy" (plus alcohol which isn't mentioned out loud)
not be afraid of asking a simple question like Why didn't you get the dogs some more food at the store today(when you were there and fed them noticing it was out & I was at work from 8-6) at risk of sounding like a "smartass"
be able to hang out with my friends not worrying about someone else's feelings being hurt

etc....

blwninthewind

I can't contribute to this now....but want to thank everyone .... made me think.

DecadesEnd

First post here, referred by a member of TAM, inspired by all of you....
I will not have to walk on eggshells....
Doritos in the couch from the kids and friends won't lead to a huge upset...
My teenagers won't hate coming home.....
I won't hate coming home....
No one will blame all their problems on me.....
No one can blame our bad marriage on me....
I won't have to drive to the gas station every time he runs out of beer...
I will have control of my finances....
I can finally stop smoking without the temptation of him smoking....
No one will smoke in the house....
I can sleep whenever I want....
I can eat whenever I want....
I won't get yelled at for going to work....
I won't get yelled at for seeing my friends (what's left of them)....
I won't get yelled at for spending money on my kids....
I won't get yelled at for spending time with my kids....
I won't get yelled at for not spending enough time with him.....
I won't get yelled at for ignoring him too much....
I won't have to worry about the damn door slamming all the time....
I won't have to worry about what movie I'm watching or why I rented it...
I won't have to worry he is going to get a wild hair and buy something I have to pay for....
I won't have to hear his constant drunken complaining...
The kids won't hear him complain about them anymore....
The kids won't be called names and talked down to anymore....
I will be happy to go home again....
I won't dread going home again....
I can leave the dishes in the sink if I feel like it...
Grocery shopping won't end in a humiliating argument......
Grocery shopping will be cheaper....
I won't be at the receiving end of the silent treatment anymore...
I won't be at the receiving end of an attitude anymore....
My dogs won't be locked in the kitchen anymore...
My cats won't be locked int he basement anymore....
God, I could go on and on here....

Tally

Bumping again for a couple of peeps

Cyranoak

Just a quick note to point out that you can do this when he leaves, and you can do this when you leave. Just as long as somebody leaves...