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LexieCat 07-16-2011 07:58 PM

Date-night (with myself!)
 
And we had a great time.

We took me to the Outback, and had a lovely steak outside on the patio (beautiful evening).

Then we took me to see the last Harry Potter movie (AWESOME!!!), bought me popcorn and a huge Diet Coke.

I used to skip doing fun things if I couldn't find someone to do them with. One of the lovely things about living alone for the past several years is that I now totally enjoy my own company. :)

Life is great.

hwsm 07-16-2011 08:31 PM

Lexie - you're an ispiration! Wtg girl!:You_Rock_

Seeking Wisdom 07-17-2011 03:06 AM

One evening so many years ago ... I remember being so frustrated, I hopped in my car to get away from the alcohol induced craziness of the moment. It was late, and I grew weary of just driving around for hours just trying to cool down as I had done so many times before. In what I felt was a bold move at the time ... I made a choice to see a movie by myself. To my amazement, I felt more relaxed and at peace than I had been in a long, long time. I absolutely loved the experience - spending time with myself was remarkably fun - plus I didn’t have to share the popcorn.

It has always been a goal of mine to feel at peace in my own company .... and to feel comfortable with just me! I truly enjoy sharing time and experiences with others ... but I also relish time by myself.

Kudos to you LexieCat ... for finding the true pleasure and joy in sharing time with yourself.
Sounds like you are a really great date!

Jazzman 07-17-2011 04:05 AM

Outback? You're a cheap date. I'd be pissed at me if I took myself to an Outback. No Chart House, The Palm or Morton's in South Jersey? LOL!!

(you know I'm J/K)

LexieCat 07-17-2011 05:15 AM

Heh, true dat, I AM kind of a cheap date. OTOH, I bought the humongous popcorn and didn't even feel guilty that I only ate half of it. And I DID order the filet at the restaurant, which was conveniently near the theater.

Last year, I took myself to a Broadway show and really splurged on dinner. I can't afford to do that all the time, though. Watching the bucks right now.

Jazzman 07-17-2011 05:36 AM

I get the big popcorn but only eat half too. That way you get the good stuff on the top and not the shake at the bottom of the bag. Only one dollar difference in price anyway.

Fandy 07-17-2011 05:51 AM

I've seen many people out having dinner alone at Bonefish....but they usually sit at the bar...because of the big screen TVs.

I haven't done this yet, but I love to take in a movie and going by myself is fine. I do go to the beach by myself with no problem..all I need is a blanket, towel and a book...I buy a big "designer" water and stop for a sub sandwich.

catlovermi 07-17-2011 05:53 AM


Originally Posted by LexieCat (Post 3037343)

We took me to...

Then we took me to ...

:)

Life is great.

Wow, watch out... before you know it, you'll be going steady with yourself!

LOL

Great post.

CLMI

wicked 07-17-2011 06:01 AM

Maybe I should change my signature?
:) (never! it is an original!)
but, you could say dating yourself is a great treatment modality.

heheheheheh

Beth

LexieCat 07-17-2011 07:09 AM

Heheheh...

Usually when I say I'm "dating myself" I mean I'm showing my age!

Yeah, dating onesself is a GREAT treatment modality!

CLMI, I've been going steady with myself for six years now. I almost had to break up with me over my drinking problem, but fortunately I got sober before that happened. It would have been pretty tough to leave me altogether. But I detached from myself, and so far, myself and I are recovering nicely together. :)

roxiestone 07-17-2011 07:23 AM

I love this!

Just this week, I bought a Groupon for a jet-ski experience. I'm taking myself on a jet ski date! Woo hoo!

Serenity8 07-17-2011 07:49 AM

I love reading this, it sounds so lovely and peaceful.

I truly enjoy being alone. This is something that made me nervous and jittery in my younger years. Now I cherish my alone time!!

m1k3 07-17-2011 08:08 AM

Lexie thanks for posting this. I'm sitting in the laundry doing wash and debating with myself if I should go to the pool this afternoon. Thanks to your inspiration I am making a pool date with myself. I'll you know how it goes.

Great thread!

skippernlilg 07-17-2011 08:31 AM

What a great time!! Way to go, Lexi!! And I'd love it if I would take me someplace like The Outback. I'm an even cheaper date!! I use coupons at Chik-fil-A when I get really wild!! lol.

Tuffgirl 07-17-2011 09:42 AM

Lexie, what a happy post! I love happy posts!

You have my respect. I have yet to take myself on a date in this way, but I have taken myself on many adventures that were a little frightening but so exhilarating at the same time.

Feeling comfortable in one's own company is so important. How can we enjoy someone else's company if we can't enjoy ours first and foremost?

lillamy 07-17-2011 10:59 AM


Usually when I say I'm "dating myself" I mean I'm showing my age!
:lmao

You know, you sound like such a great date I wish I had been there with you!!! :)


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