Serenity8

I saw my therapist today, who is an addiction specialist. She's great for me. Anyway, I told her all that's been going on with the boyfriend.

I then went on to tell her about my great grades in school, the amazing grade I got on a certification exam (taken just 4 days after my BF had an incident w/ alcohol where he stood me up), all the fun I've been having with my kids (pulled off a really great bday celebration for my oldest), that I've made it to al-anon once a week... and she stopped me and said "despite all that's been going on, you are really taking care of yourself. That's wonderful."

So while my boyfriend and I still haven't had "the big discussion" (that will take place on Saturday) we've been talking here and there, and he stopped by for 15 minutes tonight to give me some congratulatory cupcakes from one of my favorite haunts that I can't easily get to since I don't live close to it anymore. Anyway, my point is, I enjoyed our 15 minutes, thanked him for the cupcakes... and got back to what I needed to do. We know we have a lot to discuss but I am not losing myself in him or in the situation. I told him a few weeks ago that I can only be with him if it is healthy. I will still stand by that. In the meantime, I'm taking care of me.

Serenity8

You know what? I'm really trying. After everything I went through with my ex-husband, this is nothing. I mean, it's something... but I keep thinking about something a dear friend said to me after my divorce. She said "After all you've been through, you are a f***ing warrior." When I start to feel hopeless, I remember those words. I am a warrior. I fought long and hard for my marriage and when I knew it wasn't going anywhere, I fought long and hard to protect myself and my kids and get out. Now I just take it one day at a time, I'm doing what I need to do to get on with the rest of my life, and the rest of my life may or may not include my boyfriend. But for TODAY, I am just taking care of what I need to do! So thank you!

LexieCat

Great job, mizs,

It is awesome you are keeping the good things in your life and avoiding stepping into the poo-poo again. Sounds like you are achieving a sense of balance.

Hugs, and congrats on your grades, too!

dollydo

Pelican

"After all you've been through, you are a f***ing warrior." When I start to feel hopeless, I remember those words. I am a warrior. I fought long and hard for my marriage and when I knew it wasn't going anywhere, I fought long and hard to protect myself and my kids and get out. Now I just take it one day at a time, I'm doing what I need to do to get on with the rest of my life, and the rest of my life may or may not include my boyfriend. But for TODAY, I am just taking care of what I need to do! So thank you!

Inspirational!
Thank YOU for sharing!

Bewitched

m1k3

Thank you for sharing. We all need to hear how recovery is working for other people. I know it gives me strength to keep going forward.

As other have said.

You rock!

Freedom1990

That is the best thing that any of us can do! I'm proud of you, gal!

Tuffgirl

To me, this is a perfect example of a success story!

Way to go!