Recovery is GREAT

Old 07-14-2011, 08:59 AM
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Recovery is GREAT

Well feel real good about my recovery lately. I am reading Codependency no more – great book. I think we spend too much time focusing on the negative effects of our codependency. We are great people, great parents, caring and giving. We just need to put more into ourselves, which I am doing more and more each day. I do wish I started working on my recovery 3 years ago when my RAH started working on his, but I didn’t so I try to stay focused on today. It doesn’t happen over night but it does come little by little each day if you work it (even if you fake it sometimes).
Just loving my recovery and myself!!!!! I can’t thank SR enough, some days the posts real help me stay focused on ME
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Aww, thank you for that post!!

I feel the same way about my recovery. It's amazing, isn't it?!
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Thank you for posting that. I'm going to be helping my AW move to a smaller apartment in a little over a week and have been feeling a bit wobbly. I needed to remind myself I just helping her move not moving back in with her.

Even wobbly I am sooooo much better than I was 2 months ago.

Recovery is great.
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R3conMarine, Semper Fi brother!
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Old 07-14-2011, 11:13 AM
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Gettingby, I real dont think friends/family can understand how far I have come, I just feel good about myself. When you feel good you attrack others who are also enjoying life. Life is just to short for all the toxic stuff and people.
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I will use you as inspiration.
I feel deadened.
I know it was the right choice, but I feel mildly sad and empty.
I appreciate my life a lot and live in a lovely place.
I just don't have the spunk.
Thanks for showing it is out there!
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Old 07-14-2011, 11:30 AM
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FindingPeace1, sometimes it is one minute at a time not even one day at a time and then you take a good look at yourself and you see how far you have come. It is all about YOU even it just for today!!! Fake it until you make it - it works
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FindingPeace, for me sometimes it helps to look back at what I am not feeling.

I no longer feel sick at my stomach driving home from work at night.

I no longer feel brittle and sick.

I no longer feel guilty for simply going out for a walk to be by myself.

I no longer feel guilty for having hobbies and activities of my own.

I no longer feel despair and rage and many other toxic emotions.

I no longer feel alone even though then I was sitting next to my AW and now I am by myself.

I no longer wake up in the mornings with headaches from grinding my teeth.

I am no longer afraid of the future. A little scared maybe with all the changes but that's it.

I hope this helps ((((hugs))))
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Gettingby, I real dont think friends/family can understand how far I have come, I just feel good about myself. When you feel good you attrack others who are also enjoying life. Life is just to short for all the toxic stuff and people.
Bingo!! That's exactly it for me. I feel so amazing inside that it radiates out from within me.... And I see how that changes my interactions with people, and how they respond. It's the good stuff.

You might enjoy this website... breathe. | zen habits
I've found it to be a great supplement to my al-anon program.
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I love this thread.

Recovery is GREAT!

For now I feel many things, but I am feeling gratitude often.

Also I tell myself its ok NOT to be 100% happy, NOT to be perfect... I don't "have to" ANYTHING.... I am OK, today is OK, changes are OK, I am alive and healthy.

Yes, and thinking about what I am no longer doing and what I am no longer feeling, helps.

I know even when going through stuff, I won't ever feel as bad, because I know who my "spiritual family" is and have learned to ask for help.

I no longer feel alone!

Thank God for SR friends and all the resources available for us to feel better.
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This is a great thread! Thanks, Steps And GettingBy, I love the site you suggested.
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Gettingby, great sight - just take a deep breathe and enjoy life. We all need reminders
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