Should I go back? Hi, I'm new.
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I also think you should listen to that little voice... that's screaming at you. It led you here... a place I didn't find until I was on the verge of leaving as well.
Anyway, when I felt like that - low, struggling, and questioning if I was making the right choice, I would write emails to myself. And then read them again the next day or the day after.
They were phrased from the point of view of my sister or a cousin - loving, not condescending, but allowed me to talk it out to myself.
I still look back at one in particular where I actually wrote out my boundaries. It really, really clarified things for me.
Good luck in your struggle.
Anyway, when I felt like that - low, struggling, and questioning if I was making the right choice, I would write emails to myself. And then read them again the next day or the day after.
They were phrased from the point of view of my sister or a cousin - loving, not condescending, but allowed me to talk it out to myself.
I still look back at one in particular where I actually wrote out my boundaries. It really, really clarified things for me.
Good luck in your struggle.
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Maybe I haven't suffered enough. Maybe I'm a masochist. Maybe we can turn things around, work things out. Maybe I am full of magical thinking and deep in denial. Maybe he is really sincere and working on himself. Maybe I continue to grow and shape my life in a positive way. Maybe we crash and burn and hate each other a year from now.
I don't know.
I really sick of thinking about it. I have to get on with my life. I want to be back in Old State. I want to give the marriage some more time. Guess I'm just not done.
He has to stay in AA and continue with counseling. The first time he calls me a name or otherwise abuses me, I walk. I hope he knows I am serious about this and I have the finances to make it happen.
Wish me luck.
I don't know.
I really sick of thinking about it. I have to get on with my life. I want to be back in Old State. I want to give the marriage some more time. Guess I'm just not done.
He has to stay in AA and continue with counseling. The first time he calls me a name or otherwise abuses me, I walk. I hope he knows I am serious about this and I have the finances to make it happen.
Wish me luck.
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Oh yes, what is this EAP you mentioned? My husband is in the Navy. Never heard of EAP. I am aware of Family Fleet and FAP. Fortunately, my husband's commander has been very supportive of me and been just great.
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