Things a "normie" wouldn't know.... Part 2
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Normies don’t feel like they should be scheduling an appointment to treat their PTSD after reading a thread like this ...
experiencing nightmarish, head spinning, heart racing flashbacks to almost every situation posted.
A heartwrenching and profound insight into the real tragedy of alcoholism ... the collateral damage.
experiencing nightmarish, head spinning, heart racing flashbacks to almost every situation posted.
A heartwrenching and profound insight into the real tragedy of alcoholism ... the collateral damage.
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Normies don't know to lock the bedroom door when visiting the alcoholic father.
Normies don't grow up learning how to dive under the bed or into the closet and remain very very still until the alcoholic father passes out and it's safe to come out.
Normies don't have their spouses ask, "why do you always walk on tiptoe?"
Normies don't understand why some of us don't want to go "home" for the holidays.
Normies don't grow up learning how to dive under the bed or into the closet and remain very very still until the alcoholic father passes out and it's safe to come out.
Normies don't have their spouses ask, "why do you always walk on tiptoe?"
Normies don't understand why some of us don't want to go "home" for the holidays.
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Wow, great thread! I wouldn't wish this to anyone but it's good to know I'm not alone...Here are mine, from my childhood:
Normie children don't know the exact location of all the pubs in the town.
Normie children don't know the names of all the cirrhosis medications out there and they don't know every doctor in the town. Normie children also don't know when can you visit the hospitals and how and where can you get in when it's closed for visitors.
Normie children love to be at home with their family.
Normie children don't have to pray their dad doesn't put on his shoes because if he does, it means he will go out and he will be drunk yet again.
Normie children don't know how it feels to go home and find their dad lying in a shameless position on the floor, unconscious and then try to lift that body in his chair so mom won't be THAT angry when she gets home.
Normie children don't have to wonder why is dad shaking in the mornings and why is he so yellow all the time.
Normie children don't go home to find that the house is nearly on fire and they can't see anything from the smoke, because dad wanted to eat his meal warm but fell asleep in the process.
Normie children don't have to make up lies about their parents to explain their friends why don't they sleep in the same bed.
Normie children don't have to watch their mom hitting their dad in frustration and don't have to hide because they don't want to hear how it will end.
Normie children look forward to holidays and don't know how it is to stand near the Christmas tree with great presents and not able to think about anything else than pray that Granny would stay a bit more so the arguing would start only later.
Normie little girls don't have to escort their dad to the toilet praying he doesn't fall.
A normie child doesn't have to feel sorry for both of her parents all the time because she loves them equally and they just cause each other suffering all the time.
A normie teen doesn't have go back home to the news that she'll never see her dad again - he died because of the damages of the alcohol. She won't have to lead a wild life, barely being able to finish high school and then drop out of uni and engage in every self-destructing behaviour there is to try to fill that void he left.
Now I'm angry and sad
Normie children don't know the exact location of all the pubs in the town.
Normie children don't know the names of all the cirrhosis medications out there and they don't know every doctor in the town. Normie children also don't know when can you visit the hospitals and how and where can you get in when it's closed for visitors.
Normie children love to be at home with their family.
Normie children don't have to pray their dad doesn't put on his shoes because if he does, it means he will go out and he will be drunk yet again.
Normie children don't know how it feels to go home and find their dad lying in a shameless position on the floor, unconscious and then try to lift that body in his chair so mom won't be THAT angry when she gets home.
Normie children don't have to wonder why is dad shaking in the mornings and why is he so yellow all the time.
Normie children don't go home to find that the house is nearly on fire and they can't see anything from the smoke, because dad wanted to eat his meal warm but fell asleep in the process.
Normie children don't have to make up lies about their parents to explain their friends why don't they sleep in the same bed.
Normie children don't have to watch their mom hitting their dad in frustration and don't have to hide because they don't want to hear how it will end.
Normie children look forward to holidays and don't know how it is to stand near the Christmas tree with great presents and not able to think about anything else than pray that Granny would stay a bit more so the arguing would start only later.
Normie little girls don't have to escort their dad to the toilet praying he doesn't fall.
A normie child doesn't have to feel sorry for both of her parents all the time because she loves them equally and they just cause each other suffering all the time.
A normie teen doesn't have go back home to the news that she'll never see her dad again - he died because of the damages of the alcohol. She won't have to lead a wild life, barely being able to finish high school and then drop out of uni and engage in every self-destructing behaviour there is to try to fill that void he left.
Now I'm angry and sad
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Originally Posted by Leaping 
SusieC - wow. I have three little girls and just made the move to get their ADad out of the house for good. Thank you for reinforcing my decision. I hope you find peace, thinking of you -
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A normie's spouse does't spend an hour complaining about their physical aliaments to the associate at the local vitamin store and asking their advice about which product will help this symptom. Of course, they leave out the real reason they don't feel good. Then waste hundreds of dollars to purchase said recommend vitamins and products. Quack.
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Normies can't tell an alcoholic just by looking at an at-the-time sober person. (my bf has an AF too and we often find ourselves "playing" the "spot-the-alcoholic" game, we can always tell which actor has drinking problems for example and we are right all the time...)
Normies first thing to think about in the morning is coffee, breakfast or other pleasant things, my first thought always was "oh, god, will my dad be drunk again today..." or "I must go and check if he's still breathing" or "no, they can't be arguing yet again!"
Normies first thing to think about in the morning is coffee, breakfast or other pleasant things, my first thought always was "oh, god, will my dad be drunk again today..." or "I must go and check if he's still breathing" or "no, they can't be arguing yet again!"
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Normie's don't have a panic attack when they're going to be out of town for a few days.
Normie's don't have their spouse pass out and stab themselves in the leg with scissors in the garden going to get herbs.
Normie's don't have to hide keys.
Normie's don't have their spouse call them 20 times in a row at work to scream at them to know where the keys are hidden.
Normie's don't have to call the police and warn them to be on the look out for spouses car because he's most likely is drunk.
Normie's don't have their spouse pass out and stab themselves in the leg with scissors in the garden going to get herbs.
Normie's don't have to hide keys.
Normie's don't have their spouse call them 20 times in a row at work to scream at them to know where the keys are hidden.
Normie's don't have to call the police and warn them to be on the look out for spouses car because he's most likely is drunk.
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Normies don't cringe at the word BBQ
Normies don't react like they were gut punched at the sound of a beer can opening
Normies don't seeth in a silent rage at yet another song on the radio glorifying being an alcoholic and getting sh*t-faced.
Normies don't react like they were gut punched at the sound of a beer can opening
Normies don't seeth in a silent rage at yet another song on the radio glorifying being an alcoholic and getting sh*t-faced.
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LOL Ponder you bring up a very good point.
Everytime I'm out and that stupid LMFAO song "Shots" come on there's a part were somebody says "NOW WHERE MY ALCOHOLICS AT??!", I always look around at the people happily singing along and think "if only they really knew..."
Everytime I'm out and that stupid LMFAO song "Shots" come on there's a part were somebody says "NOW WHERE MY ALCOHOLICS AT??!", I always look around at the people happily singing along and think "if only they really knew..."
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"Normies" probably never experienced the fear as a child, of seeing their daddy passed out, face first in a plate of spaghetti.
"Normies" don't watch watch their parent die a slow and painful death of alcohol abuse.
"Normies" don't spend endless hours, scouring the internet looking for rehabs, detox, State, county and local social services willing or able to accept their alcoholic brother.
"Normies" don't watch watch their parent die a slow and painful death of alcohol abuse.
"Normies" don't spend endless hours, scouring the internet looking for rehabs, detox, State, county and local social services willing or able to accept their alcoholic brother.
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