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Old 06-23-2011, 11:01 AM
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I find this very odd...

Just got this as a fwd from AH. No message from him. Just this "story" that he was sent apparently and which he forwarded to me.

I suppose I am supposed to find this amusing and it is anything BUT that to me...

This is all new weird behavior even for him. Here's the story he fwd'd...

I will say this one thing- the first line of the story I actually think is true even for AH. In his mind he loves me the way he knows how and I guess ultimately my problem is mine. I don't like the way he loves me nor do I want to continue to be a part of that "love".


----- Original Message -----

Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. Ralph and Edna were both patients in a mental hospital. One day while they were walking past the hospital swimming pool, Ralph suddenly jumped into the deep end.

He sank to the bottom of the pool and stayed there.

Edna promptly jumped in to save him. She swam to the bottom and pulled him out. When the Head Nurse Director became aware of Edna's heroic act she immediately ordered her to be discharged from the hospital, as she now considered her to be mentally stable.

When she went to tell Edna the news she said, 'Edna, I have good news and bad news. The good news is you're being discharged, since you were able to rationally respond to a crisis by jumping in and saving the life of the person you love... I have concluded that your act displays sound mindedness.

The bad news is, Ralph hung himself in the bathroom with his bathrobe belt right after you saved him. I am so sorry, but he's dead.'

Edna replied, 'He didn't hang himself, I put him there to dry.. How soon can I go home?'
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Old 06-23-2011, 12:13 PM
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Wow, how weird! What an unsettling story. Eeesh. No idea why he sent it?
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Old 06-23-2011, 12:15 PM
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It's an old joke. It's been around for years. It's actually pretty funny just on it's face.
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Old 06-23-2011, 12:30 PM
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It is a joke but the context doesn't exactly make it funny.
I've seen similar things before and I believe it's passive aggressive behavior. Usually I find myself overthinking it.
Anymore these days, if I see stuff like this in my life, I chalk it up to just another form of the quack.
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Old 06-23-2011, 01:43 PM
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Oh god, I'd be creeped right out by that. What a horrible "joke".
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Old 06-23-2011, 02:00 PM
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Kind of odd, especially coming from him at this point in your marriage. Delete it and move on with your day.
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Old 06-23-2011, 04:04 PM
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I say delete it, too.

But it did remind me of the movie "A Star is Born." My dad's favorite movie (of course). It was on the other day, and it was so clear that Norman killed himself, not because he was alcoholic, but because of the guilt he felt about the sacrifice Vicki Lester was about to make on his behalf. It hit me like a ton of bricks--what a codie Vickie was!

Delete the email--it's sick. Does he want you to swim to the bottom of the pool? Does he expect you to hang him? Does he think you just want to "go home" without him?

Delete it, and go to a movie or something. Fuggedaboudit.
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Old 06-23-2011, 04:15 PM
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I think it's a funny story, but weird in context that he sent it to you. I have friends who suffer from CFS (Chronic Forwarding Syndrome) in which they forward me every sappy, "inspirational", fear-mongering, or silly thing they run across in their own inboxes. I generally hit delete without reading--most of that stuff makes me feel I wasted a good 45 seconds of my life.
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Stuff like that is just crazy. My xah once sent me a link to a song and said don't take this the wrong way or anything but this is funny. It was something about taking out the breaks on girlfriends car so she drove off a cliff. I can't remember really but it was not a funny song.

He was active then and I'm not sure he even really grasped out passive-aggressive that was. He was certianly acting out anger that he was not dealing with.
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Old 06-24-2011, 08:58 AM
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Oddly it didn't upset me or make me sad, angry etc... Mostly I was just like "he's got to be insane to think that this is a funny or appropriate thing to send at this point in our life together".

As I've thought for some time, my AH has increasingly lost all sense of what's couth and appropriate. What he finds funny and appropriate in a given setting is usually cringe worthy....

Maybe I could have responded and asked if he was in the mood for a swim? LOL!
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