omg Sex Addicts often try to control their behavior by creating external barriers to it. For example, some move to a new neighborhood or city, hoping that a new environment removed from old affairs will help. Some think marriage will keep them from acting out. An exposer may buy a car in which it's difficult to act out while driving. . Others seeking control over their behavior try to immerse themselves in religion, only to find out that while religious compulsion may soothe their shame, it does not end their acting out. Wow. Been there done that. How could I not see? How could i not see? How could I not see? How could I not see? |
I like that. First thing that popped into my head was that this is what happens when eyes are open- we start SEEING things! Not everyone knows they're going through life with their eyes closed. Not everyone HAS their eyes closed they just have these giant blind spots. SOME ... some aren't even 'awake' they're waking sleepwalkers merely going through the motions of being alive and involved in life. Others choose to stay asleep because they're afraid that a dream is close as they'll ever get. They'd rather pretend something is in fact something else rather than make it true. What a miraculous thing awareness is. What a marvelous power within us all. It really is 'an inside job'. Thanks for sharing that with me! (UH. Us, I mean.) |
I don't think stuff like that is necessarily common sense. When it's pointed out, we have that "Ah-HAH!" and suddenly it makes sense. Don't beat yourself up about not realizing it at the time. We all do better when we know better. |
PF, I agree, don't beat yourself up over that. We are all in that boat with you. None of us are here because of our great insights into our behavior especially with As. What I have found for myself is that I had to learn a whole new way of thinking before I could begin to manage and understand my codie behavior and begin to heal. ((((hugs)))) |
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