outonalimb

Gee...I wonder how many threads have been started with THAT particular statement of fact?? Quite a few I imagine.

It seems my exah (who I evicted from my home 8 weeks ago) was sitting on some people's back porch about 30 miles from here. He had been banging on people's windows in the area...trying to get into their homes and generally causing a disturbance.

The Deputy said he put my exah in the back of his patrol car and drove him around for a little while because my exah insisted he had family that lived in the area (he doesn't). My exah had the Deputy follow a truck around for a while because he thought his cousins were in it....of course they weren't. Then he had the Deputy drive up to a horse barn. Exah claims that is where he lived.

He didn't have any ID on him.
didn't have his car.
wasn't drunk.

Just didn't know where he was....

The Deputy tried to get a hold of me because my exah gave him my name and number. When the dep couldn't get a hold of me right away, he dropped my exah off at a homeless shelter.

My exah is a very sick man right now.
I called his family to let them know.
No one is going to get him.

Maybe this is his bottom?
Its just that I've said this so many times...thinking it couldn't possibly get any worse...and it always has. Without fail.

My exah has mental health problems (obviously). Just not sure if they are caused by the alochol or just exascerbated by it. It's a big mystery. Always has been.

But I know I'm making progress because I'm not rushing to save him.
I'm simply saying a prayer and placing him in God's care today.

If you could spare a prayer for him too, I would appreciate it.

God I hate this freaking disease.
I really really really do.

Thanks for letting me get this out there...

Hugs.
Mary

LexieCat

Hugs, that kind of thing is so sad and scary.

I know that my second husband had severe mental confusion due to liver failure.

Glad you are taking care of yourself. He's someplace safe, for now. Nothing you can do for him.

Prayers out, for you both.

MeredithD1

+1

barb dwyer

and *prayer*

simplyfab

This takes alot of strength and courage to do.
You're doing exactly what you need to do for yourself and taking care of you.

Not only will he be in my prayers, but you as well.

Best wishes..

Babyblue

This must be very hard for you.

I hope that in time the right help will come to him.

I'll keep you both in my prayers.

dollydo

I'm sorry, you are doing the right thing by taking care of you and your son.

I too, will pray for a good outcome.

fineday69

Sending a prayer your way.

chicory

Outonalimb,

I know how sad you must be for him. He is in my prayers, and so are you .

hugs
chicory

MissChievous

I'm so sorry. This disease is so treacherous and insidious. You're both in my prayers.

outonalimb

I know there's nothing I can do for him. I know this beyond a shadow of a doubt.

God knows I've tried everything I could ever think of to help him before...to convince him he has a problem...to convince him to seek help.

I'm trying not to awfulize.

I know he's in God's hands.
I know this.

But my heart sure does ache for him. I feel bad for him. I really do.

I appreciate your prayers more than you know.

LaPinturaBella

Of course you do. He's a human being in a tremendous amount of pain and self-destruction. And you truly loved him with all of your heart at one time.

I too will add your entire family to my prayers.

AMANDA911

Your posting brought tears to my eyes. I pray for your exah and your family.

Impurrfect

(((Mary))) - I know this must be so terribly hard, and heartbreaking. Even though you're doing the right thing, it doesn't mean you don't have compassion and hope that he will someday get it together for himself.

Many prayers to both of you, and extra special hugs to you.

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

rose68

Prayers for you both.

Alone22

Prayers for all who are hurting due to this. Truly sad. Big cyber hug for you!

barb dwyer

Just dropping back in to see how you're doing today....
and to drop off another for today.

outonalimb

Well, he apparently didn't stay at the homeless shelter.

He left me a bizarre message this morning on someone's cell phone that he borrowed. Left some non-sensical message about how he and his brother got seperated last night (his brother is 300 miles away right now) and would I please come pick him up at a gas station where I met him before in a city I've been to once in my life and certainly have never met him at before.

He's completely lost it.

Complete nonsensical.

He has no phone.
No wallet.
No money.
No car.

and he's out of his mind.
In a VERY rough city.

I know I'm supposed to let this go...to leave it in God's hands. And I am.

I just hope God's listening. I hope he knows how bad things are. I hope he intercedes.

My heart aches. ITs just so sad how far he's sunk. I keep thinking abou the man I married. Only the man I married doesn't exist anymore. But he is my son's father. Crap. Crap. Crap.

Happy freakin' father's day. (My dad died 6 months ago so this is a tough one for me all the way around).

Thanks for being here and letting me lean on you today.

chicory

hug

Ann

(((Limb))) My prayers go out for all of you too.

I watched my sponsor go through this with her schizophrenic ex who just would not take his medication and it was heart-breaking for both her and her ex. She tried to get courts to order treatment or supervised medication to no avail...he had "rights" that they did not want to infringe upon. In the end, she was completely powerless over this too.

I'm so sorry that mental illness has been underfunded and swept under the carpet by your government and mine.

Big Hugs